Ask a GG - Three

[char GG]

For obvious reasons, I don't wear a one-piece jumpsuit.

[ReineD]

I was curious how women go to the washroom when they are wearing a 1 piece jumpsuit?

Are you aware that, unlike men's urinals, all women's toilets are located in private cubicles? So it's OK to slip off the top portion of the jumpsuit, gather everything at the knees, and sit on the toilet. Not ideal, but doable.

[audreyinalbany]

Question: my wife and I have struggled with my crossdressing for years but have begun to come to a reasonable accommodation.She still has a problem with what she calls 'body modification" i.e breast forms. She feels this is insulting or insensitive to women who have has breast cancer. While I would never want to cause insult or psychological harm or to be insensitive to women who have suffered with this terrible disease, I think that breast forms are kind of necessary to my feminine presentation. Any thoughts or insights or advice or even just comments are much appreciated.

[char GG]

I understand her feelings. I doubt you will find a reasonable argument to counter that vanity vs. disease will make her change her mind. I think that she is also saying that not having breasts don't make women who have lost breasts, less of a woman.

If I were you, I would just wear the clothes for now and don't push the forms.

[Aroara Xanthemae]

What are some tips that will help me act or appear or feel more feminine

[char GG]

You could wear fem clothes, cute fem shoes, a cute wig or style your real hair into a more feminine style, add makeup, and forego the forms.

[Miel GG]

Question: my wife and I have struggled with my crossdressing for years but have begun to come to a reasonable accommodation.She still has a problem with what she calls 'body modification" i.e breast forms. She feels this is insulting or insensitive to women who have has breast cancer. While I would never want to cause insult or psychological harm or to be insensitive to women who have suffered with this terrible disease, I think that breast forms are kind of necessary to my feminine presentation. Any thoughts or insights or advice or even just comments are much appreciated.

I go along with Char GG.

Silicon breast forms aren't required to present feminine, you just wear them because you like it. But IRL GG's shape comes in all forms, from androgynous to matrone.
Ask your wife if she will be more at ease with you simply wearing a padded bra. Don't push it and discuss what she will be OK with.

[Di]

What helped Sherlyn was makeup videos on YouTube.
Look for ones for CDs
It is totally different to shade and shape your face to look feminine than what a GG does.
There are some great tricks .
Also invest when you can in a good wig. That is the first thing I notice straight away.
( I mean no Halloween wigs)
Another tip we used to do was video tape Sher walking so any bad habits that she might automatically do she will catch them and correct them herself.
Just takes practice and all that is fun

[Dutchess]

Question: my wife and I have struggled with my crossdressing for years but have begun to come to a reasonable accommodation.She still has a problem with what she calls 'body modification" i.e breast forms. She feels this is insulting or insensitive to women who have has breast cancer. While I would never want to cause insult or psychological harm or to be insensitive to women who have suffered with this terrible disease, I think that breast forms are kind of necessary to my feminine presentation. Any thoughts or insights or advice or even just comments are much appreciated.

I agree that a padded bra is the way to go, it actually looks more normal and natural than any form does. I know that's not what everybody wants to hear but that's the truth of it. Forms especially if they're any good size tend to sort of frighten me if I see a dresser in public with them on.

[ellbee]

Thanks, all.

Good to hear about padded (sports) bra's -- as that's what I wear as a daily-dresser. Have for years.


Though when I get all dolled-up once in a blue moon? Sorry, but I'll likely be stuffing a few socks in there!

I've experimented: Just helps with the whole illusion, better, is all. Something like a B cup is perfectly fine for the occasion.



Anyway, question, if I may:


What might be considered a pet-peeve (or two) re: the act of CD'ing, from a GG's perspective?

Things you wish CD'ers would try to stop doing or at least tame it down a bit?


Something like that, I dunno.


Thanks!

[Di]

Thanks, all.




Anyway, question, if I may:


What might be considered a pet-peeve (or two) re: the act of CD'ing, from a GG's perspective?

Things you wish CD'ers would try to stop doing or at least tame it down a bit?


Something like that, I dunno.


Thanks!

From my group that used to meet real life the number one thing is continuing to hide things and lie. It was a common reason for breaking up.No more trust and frankly they gave up as they felt the hiding, lying was more important than the relationship. This was to clarify….all ..accepting GGs till they gave up on the relationship because the lies and hiding would NOT STOP.


Myself in the beginning the over the top looks.Fine at home or a club but she wanted to go out everywhere and I had to help dress like a reg girl ?.so-we could go everywhere without the stares .
So early pet- peeve .
She had a penchant for micro mini shirts and stilettos .
We did a test she dressed like her usual and the constant stares made her uncomfortable.
We did some shopping for cute reg clothing and went out again no one gave a second look.
That alli can think of right now .

ADD
Our GGs here always come through and I agree with everything they said below.
Some here hate women?.or act like it from the way they talk about women.
Also they know how women feel, think and they loudly tell us all we are wrong…..makes us not even want to join in conversations because of it .
Not all here of course-but there seem to be many vocal ones.
To the beautiful members that stick up for us …..it goes noticed and we thank you .

It boggles my mind so many wanting acceptance are not accepting of others .
Thanks to our wonderful GGs for bringing the truth.

[char GG]

Pet peeves: lying to spouse or hiding from spouse, oversized forms, wigs that are not even combed let alone styled, panty talk, and nonsense ideas about GG’s.

[Dutchess]

1. Is Judgement . I have rarely seen the level of judgement with any other group of people as I do here .. and I do not only mean cd .com I mean the community as a whole from new dressers to finished out T's . I get around -daily- and I see a lot . You all want acceptance but its literally like any man who does not dress is a neanderthal , an alcoholic , wife beater , drug abuser ( which I know a few of all these who dress ).
I and others have sons and dads all kinds of male people in our lives who do not dress who are good people and its insulting .
Then the judgement of women good grief I wont even get into .

Drama: good grief the drama .. I almost put that as #1 ( not you Ellbee) you see it here and everywhere .. lots of spoiled people I tell you . Lots. I think quite a few do this because somewhere in there they think its a feminine thing to do .. its not .

You all should be thankful , so many people wish they could be as well off and loved as most of you here.

That voice and those pads OMG and yes the wigs too some make me think there is a mental health issues going on . You can see what it is and you wonder why they cant see it too but you don't dare say anything .

[Miel GG]

I completely agree with GG's answers above. Lying is the worst.
Also pet peeve (CDer's) : imposing on others your fantaisies. For example, sexy or frilly underdressing for medical appointments : the medical staff is used for your personal pleasure/thrill so it is an abusive behavior. Generally speaking, just take in account that nobody (wife, anyone in the street or interacting with you professionally,...) wants to be part of a fantasy without consenting.

[Georgina]

I am wondering what you would make of me. I am 72 years old and have been dressing since I was 7 or 8. I only wear skirts or dresses no women's trousers, leggings or other like garments. I wear stockings with a suspender girdle and I am rarely without a slip. I do make up not that often and wear a wig sparingly as well. I wear a bra and forms but limit to a B cup. I do like to look stylish and coordinated in my clothing choices. I visit friends dressed and have been out among the public. I don't talk or write about panties and when I am describing how I am dressed I describe my outer clothes mostly. I dress because I love the clothes and how they make me feel. When I am dressed another person does not appear and I am always male. How can I ever know how it feels to be a women or what feminine feels like. I don't have to be called she or such like and I am not transanything. I am not attracted to men and don't want any unwanted attention when dressed. I always explain that I love women but also love their clothes. If I am asking someone if they would like to see me dressed that is what I ask not would like to meet this mysterious other person.. I am single so I can wear skirts or dresses every evening.
I have to change my clothes after work so I change into female clothes. I only use the words women and girls when I refer to the real thing. There are ten people in my life that know about my dressing and all are supportive and I can dress in their company. I do not want to transition and am happy being a man. If I am fully dressed including make up and a wig I don't mind if there is a trace of the male and like seeing that in other CDs. I am happy with my lot.

[char GG]

If you are happy, that is what counts. Sounds like you are living your preferred life.

[Di]

Just be you. Sherlyn never talked about panties or alot of things some here enjoy talking about. Everyone is different just be you .