Hello ladies,
Please help me understand this scenario and share your experience.
Previously, I always assume that wearing heels distort our natural posture and causing more stress or strain on the lower back.
Yesterday, I went out in this attire and wearing comfy padded shoes.
Why do I still feel the stress and stiffness of the lower back after the day out?
Additional info:
- no tugging
- 1:10 hrs train ride x 2
- walking ~10,000 steps (7am - 4pm, door-to-door)
Last edited by irenetancd; 01-19-2025 at 08:43 AM.
Too heavy breasts or you might have lower back problems in general and CD is only better indicator thanks to all the heels and stuff we wear.
As Marketa say, carrying that extra weight out front could be contributing factor. Also, knickers and tights sit higher up the torso, women having a higher waistline. The increase in pressure might play a part. Do you carry a shoulder bag, something you wouldn't in drab? The extra weight from that again could be a contributing factor.
I'd suspect it's a combination of things, not one single item.
I don't step out very often and couldn't explain something that happened a few years ago. I bought my first pair of fem boots and I would wear them for hours in my house. I went to a crossdressing store and not even five minutes my back and calves were hurting so bad. The owner of the store told me that when I'm walking at home inside it's on a smooth surface and when walking outside with different elevation and textures it will put strain on different parts of your muscles.
Sometimes it's just a companion of everything, breast forms, purse and heels.
-also-
It might be a change in your posture.
When fully dressed, I tend to walk/sit/stand/etc. a bit differently than when in drab. Since I feel "good," I stand taller.
Just a thought...
I agree with others commenting on your breast size it can definitely affect your back area. I know this from personal experience I was fortunate enough to buy my first forms in person from a shop in MPLS the lady/owner helping me warned me about buying the DD forms saying you will have a back ache boy was she right after wearing my new forms for 12 hours I was definitely feeling it. The good news is it gave me a reason to go back and purchase another smaller set.
First if you are having back pain go to a doctor. I have been having back pain for the last ten years and have had three lower back operations because of disc problems. My neurosurgeon tried to get my insurance company to pay for a $1,800 back brace and the turned me down. He suggested i go to Walmart in the womens section where they sell shapeware and purchase a underbust bustier or around $25 and try that and see if it helps. Well i did and it did works for me. Actually it turned out to have several uses. Like i said it helped alot with the pain which was the most important for me. Second it helped with my figure. Third to my surprise it helped with my breast size. Im a natural size B cup, after trying it on for the first time the shaping pushed everything up and thus C cup and no pain. But see a doctor
I'm 80+ and have 25+ years experience going out all nite and dancing for many hours in hi spike heels with back problems. Preferably 4" to 5" heels.
And, u r correct, Irene. Hi heels DO change your body posture. Which is why I can stand and dance comfortibly in hi heels but NOT in flats. I've found that heels 3 1/2" or smaller r flats to me. Which require that I sit down often to rest my back.
So, from my experience I'd say your back problems may not be from your shoes. But, if they r it's probably not their heel height!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
I would bet on the train ride. That was more than 2 hours stuck in a train seat. Plus you logged a lot of steps. It this level of walking and train sitting is unusual for you, then the stiffness may just be a consequence of the activity.
O wad some Pow'r the giftie gie us
To see oursels as ithers see us!
Irene, A few miles walking would do it for me. I have a terrible back.
Last edited by alwayshave; 01-20-2025 at 09:54 AM.
Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".
I suspect a change in posture for a period of time will cause discomfort to pain because your muscles and spine are use to years of being used in a certain way. I looked to see your age which I believe makes those of us aging more prone to aches and pains. X-rays on my spine shows definite signs of wear and tear. The next time you're in for an annual physical raise the issue with your doctor. As to muscle pain in the calves you can do exercises to lengthen and strengthen those muscles. One thing that adversely affects me, even in sturdy guy shoes, is walking on concrete or tiled floors. Those surfaces are killer on my L4-L5 vertebrae.
Thank you for all the replies.
Yes, I do now notice the subconscious change of posture, especially tilting the back to project natural GG perky bums and hopefully to hide the front bulge as I do not tug. Also, sitting down in short skirts can be challenging when trying to remain feminine.
One of the reasons I always wear a corset. That and helps to maintain my hourglass figure. A well fit corset really helps support your back and can be worn all day (and all night).
General advice for back pain certainly not explicitly CD related, work out the muscles in your core, lower back, and particularly hips and legs. Obviously changing your tires does little if your engine's caput, but either directly targeting those groups, or something like yoga/Pilates can go quite a long way.
Even something like this (https://www.amazon.com/Pelvic-Clock%...ustomerReviews) or an off-brand equivalent can help a lot.
Western culture with its extensive sitting really takes a toll on the musculature balance in our hips.
It also is nice that these workouts make your hips, thighs, and tush a lot bigger too
Last edited by Snide_lobster; 01-21-2025 at 07:15 PM.
Can't believe nobody has said it already but don't we often suffer more from lower front stiffness 😀
There is a related story on the you tube channel Femm Stories. It's called Eternal Youth, Doctor Femnized Me. It's about a recently retired couple and a husband with mobility problems in his 60s. You might find it enjoyable.
There are a lot of causes for back issues, anything for mental stress, poor shoes, sitting pretty for too long. Most of these aren't bad for you, your body just isn't used to it.
I forgot to mention I had terrible back problems for years. But, since a therapist got me doing easy crunches lying on the floor every morning my back is much better now at 80 than it was in my late 40's!
I'm up to 200 now. But, started with 50!
Core strength is VERY important as u age!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
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