Easter & Wedding formal dress discussion

[KrissyTN]

On Easter Sunday I gathered with some of my family (who know nothing of my dressing) and as we sat around catching up, the conversation led to the dresses for Easter the ladies were wearing...all very beautiful and full of spring promise! We then started discussing my niece's upcoming wedding - a black tie affair. Each of the ladies discussed what color and type dress they were planning on wearing, shoes became a topic. Hair and nails became a topic...The bride's mom brought out her beautiful blue gown - my admiration and maybe a little envy hit.

After about a half hour of this conversation, I was asked if I plan on wearing a tux - which I am because I own one. Two of the ladies replied - "Guys have it so easy - they don't have to worry about getting the right gown or what color their nails need to be for the occasion!" .... I smiled, but inside I was saying to myself how much I wished I could be occupied by making sure I was getting just the right gown and nail color for this event!!

If they only knew!!!

Krissy

[Cheryl T]

Really, if they only knew.
Too bad we have to sit there quietly and listen to all the things we'd love to be discussing ... and wearing. Went through the same thing when my niece got married. It wasn't black tie, but I wished I could have worn something pretty like all the other ladies.

[Stephanie47]

I don't know if the high school kids still do it, but on prom night all the young women seemed to show off their gowns at the local mall. There was always a beautiful array of colors.

[JohnH]

Tuxedos? Not for me. For Easter I wore a white maxidress with white heels. And as a guest for a wedding? I have several wrap around V neck dresses for that occasion. And funerals? I have a couple black dresses and have worn tĥem. I don't worry much about nail color as I have settled on dark red as my favorite color.
People are used to seeing me wearing dresses so it's no big deal.

John

[Crissy 107]

Krissy, I think we can all understand how you felt and yes to be picking out the right gown and thinking what color nails, what fun that would be!

[Freddi]

I don't know if the high school kids still do it, but on prom night all the young women seemed to show off their gowns at the local mall. There was always a beautiful array of colors.

I bought a cheap one from China on ebay....made to measure fits a treat and my wife like it on me so much she ordered a slightly different style in red....again fits a treat.

[kimdl93]

I just had a brilliant idea for a remake of The Wedding Crashers

[docrobbysherry]

Case #!: Krissy, let's say instead of a man u were born a woman. Then, getting all dolled up with just the rite, expensive, new, outfit with matching accessories for a wedding, etc. if you're older, could be boring. Or worse! A lot of wasted time, money, and effort on something u have been doing all your life!

Case #2: You're a CD and u fantasize attending a class reunion, relative's wedding, neighbor's BBQ, etc., etc. dressed. (I have thot about doing this a number of times!) If u do? U make that event about u instead the person(s) it was supposed to celebrate and r outed to everyone!

Case #3: You're a CD and fantasize about being a woman attending the above mentioned events but don't want to ruin you're friends and relations real events or come out to everyone.
So, u put together your dream outfit and look. Set up your staged photo shoot and assemble your pretend audience!
Now, u have your fantasy(s) and no one else was harmed in the process!

That's what I've been doing for over 15 years using my collection of props, costumes, and mannikins.
See my wedding avatar attached as proof!

[Connie D50]

Once I was at coffee after church, (the church gives member a chance to socialize after service) two ladies sat down with me and included me in a discusstion about cloths and children. I felt so good being included.

[Jillcder]

Cute story Krissy, I can imagine all the thoughts going through your head too bad you were not able to chime in on the conversation some times I think us as crossdressers have more experience picking dresses and accessories than the majority of the ladies. Yup if they only knew!

[Genifer Teal]

"Or what nail color."

Am currently in limbo. I redid my acrylic nouns, but I haven't chosen a color yet.Because i'm not sure what dress i'm wearing. I will confirm tomorrow. Then pick the color for my nails and toes.

[abby054]

Like you, Krisi, I too have been the same silent part of similar conversations. I wonder how much my face unconsciously reveals my thoughts in such situations. And how much the women pick up from my subtle reactions when they do not initially suspect my crossdressing.

Kim, as you express the idea of wedding crashers, some fool on this forum has likely tried it. Me. I crashed a wedding reception last year. How I did it barely counts as crashing, though. A local botanical garden raises funds by renting out the premises to wedding receptions. They can have as many as five going on simultaneously in peak season. I bought a day pass to the botanical garden one fine Saturday in season. Then I came back in the evening all dolled up in a Maggy London Illusion Yoke LBD and black heels. I waited to enter until the dance floor opened and many of the older guests had departed. Then I quietly entered the room, dropped my jacket and purse at a vacant table between dance floor and exit, and joined the dancing for two to three hours. I danced the night away until things began winding down. Then I recovered my jacket and purse and slipped out discretely. On the way out, I left a card with fifty dollars and a brief note thanking them for a pleasant evening, signing it Abby. Also in the card was a gold US dollar that I had stamped my name Abby on it. When they got the card, they realized they had a crasher. I probably was in a photo or two of the dance floor. I made sure to cost them nothing. I arrived after head counts could be accurately made. I ate none of their food and drank only water. I wanted no alcohol slowing me down or making me act more foolish than I already was, in case I had to make a quick exit.

This was a bucket list item. I tried it a few years earlier at a botanical garden in a different city. I got dolled up in time for the ceremony. I even entered the premises, blending with quite a few other women dressed up for the occasion. But I chickened out at the last minute and did not sit for the ceremony nor crash the reception.

Yes, that was rude. Crashing is not a nice thing to do. It places a premium on blending in, to be sure. I enjoyed the dancing. I probably was read but not confronted or evicted or worse. I have visited those botanical gardens often, in drab and en femme, but I have not crashed another reception since.

[JohnH]

Once I was at coffee after church, (the church gives member a chance to socialize after service) two ladies sat down with me and included me in a discusstion about cloths and children. I felt so good being included.

In my case, even though I routinely dress en femme for church, during coffee hour after church, it seems I talk to the other men (as I am a man) a lot more than the women.

John

[DianeT]

About matching gowns and nail colors, we CDs do these things for fun, while women generally do it because they don't have much choice (as in: society expects them to do it). The remark these women made shows that they consider it a chore not a blessing. So we may say we wish we were occupied with these things, yeah, but wish as a crossdresser, not as a woman.

[Patience]

[...]Each of the ladies discussed what color and type dress they were planning on wearing, shoes became a topic. Hair and nails became a topic [...]

I think the main rationale there is to avoid showing up wearing the same dress as someone else, which can lead to unwelcome comparisons.

[...] Two of the ladies replied - "Guys have it so easy - they don't have to worry about getting the right gown or what color their nails need to be for the occasion!"

I'll agree with the gown concern for the reason stated above, but the nail color quip is a bit too much. Red is pretty much the safe default color (like lipstick) unless it clashes with the gown.

I do have a couple of nice evening dresses tucked away for a possible posh event. One day, maybe.