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    Quote Originally Posted by Mary Loo View Post
    Heather,

    There was a thread somewhere on here a couple months ago, though I can’t remember where on here that I saw it, with a solution. This being logged off frequently was also a problem for me and evidently others. The solution was very simple. If you login via the login at the top of the screen at least, make sure to click the little box that says Remember me. Ever since I started doing that I have not been dropped, but if Inforget to, I will still get dropped at some point. I believe the regular login has a similar checkbox.
    If this post actually makes it on the first try, this is the solution.
    EDIT: It worked. I've never had to do this before. I guess an old dog can learn new tricks. Thanks so much.
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    There are so many great answers in this thread already. To answer for myself, I joined around 2011 and it was such a relief to find so many people who do what I do but also having so much collective sanity and wisdom.

    I still visit the site fairly regularly, but usually anonymously on my smartphone in private browsing mode. I really, really hate typing more than a few words on my smartphone and, owing to the wisdom to which I previously alluded, someone else has usually made any point I was going to make anyway, making the effort of logging in not really worthwhile. To add to this, I don't really have enough private time to type much on the real computer in the study, since it takes time to compose something worthwhile and by then someone's usually come along to take an interest in what I'm doing.

    So I tend not to log in, but I logged in just to write this. In the time I've written it, my session has expired and I'm thankful I wrote it in a text document. This is another reason I don't log in much. I don't want to persist my credentials in a browser, but the sessions are so short I'd lose what I'd typed and have to log in multiple times.

    I do really appreciate all that the forum maintainers, moderators and members do in keeping this place a interesting, fun and supportive place to keep returning to. But extending the session time to say an hour would be super helpful.

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    I joined a long time ago and was quite active for a while. I guess after a while, I felt like I had seen everything.
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    I too have been around a while, and pop back every now and then to see the latest posts. I have to admit, even though I am here a fair bit, I dont usually post much. As has been said about others. I got what i needed when i first came here and since having made some friends, i keep in touch with them outside the forum. I have not lost interest or slowed down in what i do, I just dont feel the need for justification any more. My wife is comletely on board with my " Hobby " and we often go away for a week or so as two old ladies on Holiday and have a great time. Also a comment regarding new age acceptance has made a difference. I dont feel so intimidated when out dressed and i have even been in the presence of people i know and not been recognised. I have basically reached a comfortable place and am more than happy with that. For this I want to thank many people, Too many to mention, but those that have been there for me know who they are and yes. Many are no longer active here. Shout out to Krea, Im still around, and maybe we will bump into each other one day after all.

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    I pop in occasionally... sometimes not for many months... just whatever life takes me.

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    I still stop by every day...not sure why. I'm longtime member and have seen the same topics discussed over and over and over again. I guess I still get some reassurance from seeing so many other folks who enjoy dressing. Community

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    Like others, I kept getting logged out so stopped posting but kept reading. I've also shifted my focus a little to reading books about transgender and crossdressing psychology and the experiences of others. My Husband Betty, and She's Not There were some "classics" I really needed to dive into. My journey keeps evolving and so my needs do as well. The forum is great and I love the interactions but I'm at a bit of a more existential place trying to figure out how far down the transgender road I need to go to feel whole and happy. The transgender section doesn't seem to get a-lot of activity. Conversations about "how many panties you own" are light hearted and fun to read but not necessarily what I'm looking for anymore. All in all, I still love the forum but the desire to post comes and goes.

    Just my 2 cents.
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    Mod note@ SophiaRose:

    Remember, you have to tick the "remember me" box when you log in order to avoid getting inadvertently logged out.

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    I visit fairly frequently but I get the impression that most of the regular posters and perhaps readers on this site may tend to be closer to retirement age. I don’t know if that has any affect on who visits and frequency.

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    Lacey, I've observed the same. I don't know why the demographic skews older, but I think it does. Part of it may be the journey of self acceptance takes a long time to get to the point of wanting to contribute here, but that definitely could be my own biases.

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    I'm transitioning and still here I stop by from time to time
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    I have been here for a few years, but I don't feel the urge to post very often. I used to be here almost daily, but now maybe once a week I sign on, read some posts, and leave.

    There has been a few members that were very popular, that got banned for what ever reason.

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    off topic....I clicked the 'remember me' button years ago and haven't logged off (or been logged off) since

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    I, too, am curious as to what happed to people who seemed to drop off the face of the earth. Some have gone from very frequent posting to nothing. I've taken a break or two myself, but here I am again. I don't post often. There isn't much new under the sun. But, I feel some obligation to post/respond sometimes. When I posted things that were totally self serving, others helpfully responded. I feel like I should do the same. That's part of what makes this a community. I think it's particularly important to post dissenting viewpoints. It loses some of it's usefulness if everybody agrees.

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    Hi everyone...
    when i first joined I was like many above said... quite active on this site. It's no exaggeration to say the positive aspect it had for me in those early years is immeasurable. But I began hormone therapy in June of 2020 and there were aspects of the site/forum that became...

    it felt like I had "outgrown" it. That's not really accurate but the best way I can come up with at the moment. There are also other corners of the internet that I began to find common ground with others who were starting transition. And while i'll be forever grateful for coming across this community I'm afraid i don't check in like I used to. In fact, I'm not sure why I did today. Feeling nostalgic perhaps.

    So obviously I can't do speak for everyone who kind of fades away, I can answer the original question by saying various other places on the internet. Hope you all are well.
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    I can only speek for myself. First is that I don't need to be here. By that I mean I live as Jean. So dressing is a normal thing for me. This is the first time I have been here in a long time. I don't remember the last time I was here.

    So for me there just wasn't anything I was interested in. I do have a friend form here that we communicate by email. It was this friend who mentioned that she misses mine and others posts. That's why I am here now.

    So in my case you could be put in the category of moving on. But like now I could return as I haven't gone anywhere i just stopped coming here. Love Jean

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    I visit this site much less often than I used to, and the main reason is that almost every time I go to a different page, it says "You are not logged in...".
    I get so fed up with logging in for almost every page, that I just don't bother any more.
    It never used to do that. Nothing has changed on my PC or my phone, so it must be something to do with the forum software, or a setting.

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    @HollyGreene,
    That's because since the upgrade, you have to tick the "remember me" box to stay logged in. It has been mentioned several times in Forum Issues, Help and News.
    Last edited by char GG; 05-21-2025 at 09:10 PM.

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    I can only speak for myself here, but in my specific case, life just gets in the way. When I first started posting here, I was recovering from a rather horrific injury. As I recovered and eased my way back into the working world, the division of time became the larger burden. I'm back reading and posting more frequently now, but it still seems that my participation on the forums comes in fits & starts, mostly based on time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by char GG View Post
    @HollyGreene,
    That's because since the upgrade, you have to tick the "remember me" box to stay logged in. It has been mentioned several times in Forum Issues, Help and News.
    Thanks. Somehow I hadn't seen that.

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    To the OP: After a few years on here so many of the same thoughts come up with the same answers that I just don't bother to respond. I see from some of the responses above that I'm not alone there. That could look like I just never visit any more, although I'm here almost daily.

    To the logging off problem: When I got my new laptop I decided to try the Duckduckgo browser to see how it worked. Not only does it do a great job with eliminating ads on youtube, on some sites it gives me the option to "fireproof" the site. I didn't know what that meant but tried it on this one. What it does is keep me logged on permanently. I haven't had to log on from this computer since.

    That also makes me more likely to respond to a thread since I'm already logged on. Before that I spent most of my visits here in guest mode and often just didn't feel like spending the 5 seconds it takes to log back in.
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