I have generally gotten dressed up at home, then go a meet up with someone. There was one time, about 3 years ago, I met up with a friend from the forum and we shared a hotel room over three days and two nights. It was wonderful. Being with someone makes it so much nicer.
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So far, my battle buddies are all solely on line. I live in a remote small town. It is two hours driving to Spokane and six hours driving one way to Seattle or Portland or Boise. I am unwilling to live with the results of going out and about locally, so my dressing remains a solitary thing.
I grew up on a family where anything I said or did could be used against me, so I am naturally wary of anything that exposes my dressing to anyone I know in person. My battle buddies will be virtual for the foreseeable future.
Great question. I have a few battle buddies but they're only online or phone friends. You would think living in Vegas for 16 years would have cultivated a good shopping friend or two but due to work and DADT there just wasn't an opportunity.
I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!
I do not have anybody outside of this and another online forum who is a Battle Buddy. As with most of us, I would love to have a GG friend to share with. I am mostly closeted, but would love a good make over so as to present in public. Until then, I will cherish my time here. I find great comfort in knowing all of you online. Hugs, Meg
I would love to find a friend to dress with. Im not sure where to start looking though. If I did find someone to share dressing with Im sure it would take awhile to build up trust to share my secret with. Well I guess it will have to be solo for awhile more.
I wish. If anyone is in Richmond VA, I would love to connect.
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Years ago I decided I was going to attend a local meeting. I was ready to leave the house and my wife had a fit. God knows what goes on at those meetings right? She just did not want me to pursue meeting others for fear that I would go down some slippery slope. Thus it?s all very solitary for me. I would love to have coffee even with some other CDers Meeting dressed up would be fascinating for sure. It?s a lonely life in this mode otherwise.
Lonely life indeed. And as well all know from here, if we see a sister in the wild we're not supposed to connect with them because it means we're showing they're not passing. <sigh>
A girl can dream. But, unfortunately it is a solo hobby for me.
Solo for me, too, for 70 of my 77 years. I envy those whose spouses support and encourage dressing, or have friends to go out with. Sigh.
I wish, even if was just hanging around the yard and having a beer
Avatar thanks to Skynet, in the hopes that it'll remember I'm not the enemy.
I have ONE friend who doesn't care how I'm dressed. Either way, we're two friends spending time together.
It's strange (to me at least) just how "normal" the whole thing is when I'm with him, fully femme.
I'm just me - Sara, not a guy dressed up. It's wonderfully ordinary - if that makes any sense.
Unfortunately, I don't get to spend much time with him, and even less time as me.
My (l/w)ife dictates otherwise.
Yes. I have two battle buddies. One we have a get together, dress up and hang out. The other we have dinner at each others home and dress up. We also went to a fetish weekend hotel take over and dressed up at the events they had. Both our wives are ever so supportive and dressed up with us. Great times.
In the days when all this was was crossdressing for me, I had friends who knew, and friends who knew that I got to spend time with because of their willingness to help me out, but none were other CDs. I'd have loved that! Nowadays my goal in life is to be the friend for a CD.
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken."
Oscar Wilde
Ok where in the central valley??
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For those who wish to join a group, many GLBTQ+ centers in large cities
have a CD support group. Also, the free website fetlife.com has CD
special interest groups. It's mostly a USA website though. As June is
Pride month and Pride festivals always welcome CDers to join the fun.
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I'm not in Richmond, but always open to ideas.Originally Posted by countrygirl
Nope, no one, just me. For perhaps a year long ago, there was a much younger women from work who I socialized with, at dinner one night she said she had something to tell me, as she thought I had romantic interest in her: She is gay. I chuckled a bit, and at first she got a bit angry until I told her about myself. So we went out together, enjoying many of the entertainment places in NYC. About a year later, though, her girlfriend finally got her visa, and my friend moved to the other side of the country. I miss her to this day, but her email address is gone, and all I can do, is wish her a wonderful life. For a year, at least, I had someone to talk to.
No men. I was abused by males growing up, and with the constant competitiveness that most men feel towards each other, double crossed at work and social situations, I have never trusted males at all; I always feel like they're trying to take advantage of me in some way, so I don't really have any friends who know about my crossdressing. To me, it would only give them information ammunition to use against me at some point, and having been the punching bag child while growing up, I refuse to ever let that happen again.
And so, here I am, alone again, naturally. Just like Gilbert O'Sullivan: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gU3ubk8u7dA
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
What a beautiful concept. Makes a lot of sense to gather with like-minded ladies.
Truth be told, sounds like fun.
Can't say I have anyone like this in my life, currently. I am making connection with the local Drag community fairly soon, which sort of counts as first steps...I guess...
The only person that I dress with and knows is my best friend who is also my wife. I can't see a reason to change that to be honest. I dress with her in fact as I browse this forum I'm sat in my yellow flowered summer dress and she in he PJ's. We're both happy enough with that.
I'm not quite sure this qualifies as dressing with friends but it seems like it to me. Our CD group, FEM Florida, meets monthly. One of the members has a family member living with them that does not know. On meeting nights she, and her SO, comes to our house around mid-day. After chatting for a few hours, we both repair to separate showers/bedrooms to get ready for the night. About an hour before the meeting we finally see each other in girl mode. I'm always jealous of her looks!
Anyway, off we go to our meeting along with our SOs. The meeting could be a GNO or just in our private clubhouse. We are typically gone for several hours. After the meeting it's back to the house for a nightcap (still dressed) and more chatting. Finally about mid-night it's time to go to bed (they spend the night) and get our girl stuff off. The next morning we are back in guy mode for breakfast.
Jenn A --- nothing fancy, just me.
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