Are you dressing to BE your woman of desire or,
are you dressing to BE WITH your woman of desire?
In my case it's usually the latter. The tactile experience with all the erotic feedback. But when there is that opportunity to just be in fem mode all day, it's the first choice.
I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!
That is a good question. I am not really sure, maybe it is both. I do know my wife thought I was trying to be both partners at the same time. Something like that. I do not recall her exact words. I mostly wear what I like to see. Well i used to that is.
Sandi
Hi Carla
I dress to be as femme as possible because that's how my wife likes me to look so I guess I'm dressing to be the woman SHE desires.
Amy x
Hi Carla,
I suppose to be the woman I desire is probably the closest. When I dress up I want to dress as femininly as possible, wear the clothes I'd like to see women wear. Women have so many options of clothes, hairstyles, shoes, makeup looks, so can look completely different depending on how they style themselves, I love that aspect of it. I also like to be desired as a woman when I dress up. As a man I've never felt desired, but, when I dress up I feel so much better and know I look good
Great question Carla! My feelings align with those of Jasmine. I strive to appear as feminine as possible, to take on the role, at least superficially, of a desired woman. I strive to be her.
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I think for me it's ultimately that I'd love to be desired as a woman - so it's option A.
To Be or to be with - is that the question? (Sorry Shakespeare)
For me, the dressing is more the first. It's not the clothing itself so much as it is my way of feeling more "in sync" with my sense of just who I am inside.
or is it "to be ONE of the gals"? Maybe just female companionship and bonding? that word "desire' seems to add an element of sexuality.
Carla, to be my woman of desire. The woman I desire to be with is unattainable.
Please call me Jamie, I always_have crossdressed, I always will, "alwayshave".
Yes it does...at least in the imagination!Originally Posted by audreyinalbany
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I dress for me, but I also dress for my wife who is my woman of desire.
I like to present well and like the clothes to suit me. I don't need to look like I am a women.
I don't wish to change my gender I just want to change my clothes.
Neither!
I'm dressing because I Am her!
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
I also dress to be me. Desire, in an intimacy sense, isn?t really part of my equation.
I didn?t respond on this thread right away Carla because I had to think about it. After reading other?s responses and some thought, I was going with option one. Then Cheryl said I am her and that rang true to me. I just am her and the reason I dress. Whatever bumps, bruises and thorns that brings with it.
There are plenty of time that I want to be one of the girls.
SO, where does that leave me? Which camp?
I dress to escape reality for a short while and just enjoy being me, and dressing how I prefer
I don't dress to be a woman, or dress to be like the woman I would desire.
I just dress how I feel most comfortable.
my sister's reply when I told her how I prefer to dress
"Everyone has there thing, all that matters is that you are happy, love what you do and who you do it with"
Why should only women have all the fun? It's time for men to take back The Great Male Renunciation which started around 1750. I certainly do my part, as I wear dresses and nail polish. Also, on Sunday mornings I add hosiery, heels, perfume, makeup, and hoop earrings. I don't need any breast forms as I naturally fill a 40DD bra.
John
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Really, neither. I dress because I like the look and feel of the clothes, and in some ways it makes me feel sexy, whether or not anyone else considers it sexy.
As to a strategy to attract someone, I am attracted to women, and I have never considered dressing like one to be a fairly effective strategy to attract one (nonwithstanding I've been married for 33 years).
It's more the scratch I just have to itch, and the more you scratch, the more you itch.
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I think it is to be with the woman I most desire. If my wife was not ready, panties always were.
I dress to become my own woman.
Honoring the woman within
I'm not understanding "be with" the woman you desire. I think there's a fine line of crossover between the two options you offer. Keep in mind, I overthink stuff.I'm sure no one else here does that. If anyone else favors the being with the woman you desire, please lend some insight to that side of the equation.
Great post Carla
Loving the answers .
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Im dressing to be me but I do want to be desirable as well
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Neither!
Yes, one of the benefits/reasons for dressing is to feel more desirable to myself. I like to enjoy my reflection in the mirror. Do I enjoy looking at a male body? Particularly my own? Absolutely not is the answer to both of those. Do I like to admire the female form? Yes, I always have and always will. Therefore to present an image I admire, I use breast forms, hip pads, sometimes my corset, and a wig (not makeup very often due to time, effort, lack of ability, and cleanup required, thus I have to rely on my imagination and Face Ap, no longer free, grr, to try to overcome that). All the extras are utilized because it makes me feel good, aka sexy, when I can admire a female looking reflection/image.
Do I want to BE the woman of my dreams? No, I am very happy in my life and my male existence, again, always have been, always will.
Regarding your second option, I am already able to be WITH the woman of my desires and have been for almost 35 years now, my wife. Thus, that isn’t the right answer either.
Sorry for the verbose answer, but hopefully it resonates with others out there.
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