Bianca Star, it absolutely is an issue and I can relate.
I have a very supportive wife, but up until about 1.5 years ago, I struggled to find any time to dress at all. Kids (who don't know and whom I don't want to know) at home. I took advantage of the very few days when they were both away even if for a few hours. But, that was quite frustrating because too often plans would change, be cancelled, or I'd have to do something during that time that would prevent getting dressed. I took to dressing and driving as a relief valve of sorts; I'd take my 'jump bag' (a smallish bag with a change of femme clothes, heels, etc.), and change somewhere away from home. Sometimes this would be on the way to an appointment I sometimes have just over an hour away. Sometimes it was just to drive. It was something.
1.5 years ago, my wife and I started sleeping apart. There's nothing wrong with our marriage. I just have serious sleep issues at times, and find it very difficult to get healthy sleep. She will get up 1 or 2 times during the night, which if it wakes me means I'm done sleeping for the night. She can go right back to sleep. Not me. So, I sleep in a separate room now, a room that I can lock. Since I started doing this, I sleep en femme every night. I occasionally get an hour, sometimes more, in the morning to change into femme day clothes before having to change into male/dad mode and begin the day. This has made a lot of difference. I no longer feel disconnected from my crossdressing, and feel much more at ease about it, much more like I'm embracing it being a part of me. Before, it was always hammered into a chest, and not allowed out except on the odd occasion. Now it's me.
