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[Maria 60]

I'm very sorry about your situation and it seems like we are always in what they call "catch 22". If you do it, your wrong and if you don't do it your still wrong.
I had a little eye opener a few years back, my cousin got divorced from his wife and we can really call him "the nice guy" because he really is. He meet a girl and her mother needed some work done and he referred me. While I was working at the mothers house she told me that my cousin is a really nice guy and her daughter should be very happy to find a man like him. Here comes my eye opener, she told me its to bad they won't be together long because he's to nice of a guy and a lot of women don't like that. I was totally confused by that statement and I had to ask, don't women want to be pampered, doors open for them doing things for them that they like or making an effort for them and supporting there dreams. I asked her so what should we do, I told her my cousin loves her daughter to death and she going to probably leave him for doing all the right things. The mother just nodded her head to a side with no answer, but the daughter did leave my cousin a month or so later.
After this I got confused myself on how to act or speak to my wife and to the point that she asked me what was wrong with me. I felt like I didn't know how to act to her, be nice don't be nice if doing the right thing is wrong then I guess I have to do the wrong thing.
After this discussion with her my wife just made the most sense, she will just be herself and I should just be myself and we shouldn't have to try so hard and if we can't handle who are true selves are then maybe we are not compatible.
I believe that's going to be your next step going forward is how are you going to go into your next relationship and my wife's statement makes a lot of sense. Just be yourself and hopefully we will find someone compatible. Im happy your getting help and with time your broken heart will mend and don't forget you have a big community on your side if you need us. Take care.

[Genifer Teal]

I agree it was probably less the little things and more the breach of trust she felt. Did I miss something? Did it somehow get back to her because of her name uniqueness? If so I fully understand her concern.

Otherwise, it's not uncommon for women to meet someone and tell their friends about that person immediately. That's kinda what you did. The internet made that a little bit bigger, but it's also somewhat anonymous. Back to that name thing, but really what are the chances of her being personally identified? When someone scared about something, the chance of it happening might seem infinitely likely no matter how unlikely it might be. I think someone that has a fear of being found out is more likely to jump to those conclusions.

What is she afraid of? She obviously likes you. Your situation is different. She's probably still questioning it for herself. If she is afraid of people finding out the kind of relationship she's in randomly across the internet, how is she gonna deal with it in person?

I know you felt it had a lot of potential, and it probably did. It seems like it wasn't perfect on its own. Maybe you just brought that to the surface sooner. All things happen for a reason. Accept this as one of those things and move on.

[Amy Lynn3]

Philippa: I'm very sorry the relationship did not work. I have a comment you may consider.
I have found if relationships are broken it only means a better one is around the corner. Life has a way of working things out for our betterment. You will find many understanding shoulders here if you need one.