Hello all,
Cross-dressing is often described as a journey - so have you arrived at your happy place yet?
Luv J
Hello all,
Cross-dressing is often described as a journey - so have you arrived at your happy place yet?
Luv J
To me CDing is a lot like life. Change is happening all around u and in u all the time. Even if u don't realise it.
Look back at your life if u don't believe me? When u reach my age, 82, you'll have LOTS to look back at. Or, else suffer the frustration of knowing u should have done things differently!
Remember, u have the power to turn your life around every hour you're above ground!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
I feel that I am mostly to my happy place, just not all the way yet.
I have a supportive wife; I can dress openly in front of her with no worries. Even though she supports me, I know she would happy if I quit. We have come to a compromise, since she married a man, she wants me dressed as a man at least half the time. She doesn't have a problem with me wearing panties every day, but other than that I only dress 3 days a week.
About the only thing I would like to accomplish is being able to dress more freely in public. I wouldn't want to do it near where I live, because I don't want anything to affect my wife, kids and grandkids. But it would be nice to go out in public fully dressed as a woman, I don't get the desire to do this very often, but when I get the urge, I wish I could.
No, I'm not there yet and I hope the journey never ends.
It's full of wonder, learning and experimenting and I enjoy every leg of the trip.
I don't wear women's clothes, I wear MY clothes !
It has been an over 40 year journey and it final feels like I am just getting started. My spouse is more comfortable seeing my dressed (no make up or wig) and I do get more opportunities to steal away Mercedes time. I have finally been out to a club dressed and shopping is becoming a regular occurance, albeit in drab.
Still a long way to go but loving the journey I am on.
Count me on "being there". The last time I wore pants (trousers) was to my mother's funeral in late September of 2024.
John
John (Legal name)
Am I "there"? Not at all. Just started to CD actively about four years ago... still feel very much like a beginner.
But have I "arrived" at my happy place? Absolutely! At 73, it's great to be involved in something new, embracing the lure of untried paths.
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I think I am somewhere, but not sure if it?s ?there?
I?m pretty much in the same boat as Steph, and I did try to wear all femme stuff last week while vacationing in Bar Harbor , Maine, but I chickened out on some of the tops. Partly because the B&B we stayed at, the couple made us feel like family and it was the best place we stayed. We?d like to go back, and I wouldn?t want to jeopardize that. Although, they do seem to be open minded, but you never know. So it was women?s bottoms(shorts and jeans ) all week and tops that some were ok while others definitely femme but worn under a CK plush hoodie. I have another week off coming up so we?ll see where this goes. My female clothes outnumber male at this point.
~Joss
?To become the queen, I first honored the princess within?curious, delicate, and brave. Every step I take, every thread of silk I wrap around me, is a coronation of my truth.?
Yes, I am content to wear panties and gowns around the house with my wife’s acceptance. I have no desire to go further with make up or wigs or go out.
Honoring the woman within
For over fifty years I have had the desire to wear womens clothing the peak of my Crossdressing was 8 years ago when I was traveling on business dressing very regularly in public but now since retiring my opportunities have dwindled. So NO Im not there yet but if and when I share this with my wife hopefully I can say yes the journey is complete. Great question.
Not even close. Since coming out to my wife recently this journey is really just beginning. Ironically, her therapist is encouraging her to encourage me to explore this further. She really wants to know if I want to transition and live as a woman. My head has been spinning trying to figure out where this journey is headed.
Ichigo Ichie...every interaction is once in a life time, unique, and should be cherished. Bring along your En Femme and live with joy.
I never bought into the journey analogy. To me, it's just another facet of life. Just part of my existence and experience.
Personally, I'm thankful that my early curiosity wasn't just shoved on the trans train on its way to the chop shop.
I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!
No, not anywhere close! For those of us in a "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" relationship there is usually minimal time for self-expression.
getting closer
Pretty much, I live full time as a woman.
"Care about what other people think of you and you will always be their prisoner" - Lao Tzu
Yes. I am totally at my happy place. There are days when I completely enjoy my Raychel time. But it is not all consuming of my life. I can leave Raychel in the closet if needed and enjoy life as Ray. Sure I prefer Raychel to be around. But I can live without as well.
my sister's reply when I told her how I prefer to dress
"Everyone has there thing, all that matters is that you are happy, love what you do and who you do it with"
Sadly, I've accepted that I'll never get there. My male body prevents my ever reaching that goal.
Still - I've reached a "nice stopover" along the way. It's not where I really want to be, but it's pleasant here and the need to move on is manageable.
Even though I'm mostly limited to panties and (plain!) nighties, I spend more time dressed this way than I do in man things.
While I know my wife would rather see it all go away, she's accepted this much as just my "comfy clothes" and doesn't pay much attention to them.
But God forbid that anyone else find out! If there's even a chance someone might stop by, I've got to go change back to male mode.
Honestly, I suspect that she sometimes uses this excuse to get me to change - rather than just say it's bothering her and ask me to put on man things.
Oh well, that's life I guess.
Reminds me of the old expression: If you keep going in that direction, you’re going to wind up where you’re headed.
O wad some Pow'r the giftie gie us
To see oursels as ithers see us!
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