For Cross-Dressers: Would You Transition If You Could?

[Eleonore]

I would not transition. All I know is that there are times when I want to be truly feel feminine, and be seen and taken as a female, not as a male dressed as a female.

That's exactly how I feel. I would not transition, or at least surely not fully. However I started couple of years ago with full body laser (great excuse I practice Martial Arts), I am keeping my nails a bit longer than usual, and I would love to learn how to do a better job with make up.
In my fantasies yes, I think about transitioning, I identify as a male CD, I am not a built up macho but I am fit enough to look decent in a pair of leggings. What bothers me the most, is not the full transition or the " I look feminine enough", it's more about being lonely in my crossdressing. I would genuinely love to meet a sister that I could spend some quality time with, friendly time, not intimate.

[Natalie5004]

Have you tried going out to CD / Gay / Trans clubs? You might meet a like minded person there. There has to be a fairly large group in Houston. Maybe there is a CD Group that meets at a club once a month. There is one here in CA.

[jacques]

hello April,
I don't think I would. I am happy being a crossdresser. I would be happier if crossdressing could be accepted by the public.
However, if I was much younger I might be tempted.
luv J

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

Eleonore, and everyone else, you don't need martial arts, or swimming, or cycling, or your porn career, or anything else to justify hair removal. I'm in construction in Florida, where I wear shorts and tank tops about 355 days a year. And I get full body wax. And no one notices, or cares, or at least mentions it. I've had literally 3 people in the last 15 years ask me about my body hair, and a quick answer of "yeah" ended 2 of the conversations. The other one, which was my best friend from HS, gave me a little crap about it until I told him "try it once, you'll never look back." (He shaved for the Big V and has kept it shaved ever since, I say it's the same thing)

[Jackson]

Im good with my crossdressing. I like both my Male and female sides. I also like my male parts very much. No, I dont ant to transition, just dress on occasion

[Richelle423]

Oh if I could take that magic pill and wake up the next morning as a woman I would take two just to be safe.

[CynthiaD]

Supposedly only 20-25 percent of trans women get 'THE SURGERY', for various reasons.

I do have the 'lifetime of pharmaceutical maintenance' ahead of me, but nowhere near as many (presumably lifetime) meds as the cis person I married 20 some years ago. But yes, most trans women (somewhere from 70-90%) do that pharmaceutical maintenance.

And there are trans women who do either or both of those things that don't socially transition.

There's no 'there's only one way to be trans' rule that says you have to do all three.

Thanks for the perspective.
Cindy

[Heather76]

I'm very conflicted with how I feel on this subject. Here is what I know. If there would be NO ill consequences (divorce, loss of friendships, relationship with my children & grandchildren) I would like to dress 24/7. Every time I put on a bra and forms, I wish I had my own DD cups instead of forms. But, I've never wanted to be a woman. I simply enjoy emulating a woman. So I guess I'm a MIAD who really, really, really enjoys playing "dress up."

Of course, as I approach 80 years on this earth, transitioning is out of the question. If I were 20, I might very well consider it.

[~Joanne~]

No. I am Happy as a part time girl. I can dress for a bit for a day then go right back to being male the rest of the time.

[Nyla F]

I identify as a crossdresser, and by my definition that means I wear clothes of the opposite gender but don?t identify as that gender. So I find the question a little puzzling. Why would I MTF transition if I don?t identify as a female?

[April Rose]

After a lifetime of widely varying circumstances, I seem to have landed on non-binary, and, though I haven't really declared it, I am comfortable enough there that I very much doubt I will go any farther. I am not sure if that means that I won't transition, or that I have transitioned.

I will say that if there were no social repercussions, real or imagined, I would probably wear dresses in public more often.

[Glenda58]

I've been cross dressing since I was 6. It wasn't until my wife passed that I was counseling that I discover I wasn't a crossdresser but trans. I have started HRT a year ago and now I will be taking the next step at the end of the month. And I'm not a spring chicken I'm 77. So, it's never to late if you are healthy.

[Aka_Donna]

It was fun to mentally play with the idea of transitioning, but being senior the risks of surgery and HRT and if I would really, I mean really be any better off, are just too much.

I am happy where I am and with dual identities of crossdresser and "normal man".

[sometimes_miss]

If I could magically become the pretty 14 y/o girl that I've felt like for the past 50 years, well sure. But if you mean transition into being a frumpy old 70 y/o lady, well, no thanks. Being an unattractive old man and being an unattractive old lady doesn't seem like much of a change. It's just easier to continue along the way I'm going already, no reason to have to learn all sorts of new things to adapt to becoming a woman. Besides, being a huge man, old or young, makes others think twice before confronting me about anything, and having lived the life of always being bullied when I was a kid, being left alone is a nice benefit of being huge and appearing potentially dangerous.

[Maid_Marion]

I have long salt and pepper hair but I haven't reached the age of invisibility that I hear older GGs complaining about.