Thanks all. To be clear, missing it is not something new, it has been an ongoing theme in my head, but I am not going to fall apart over it. Docrobbysherry is correct though, after my past experiences , underdressing for example is just not going to do much for me.

Dee you while it is true my situation might change, I am not counting on it so there is no point of dwelling on false hopes. Besides, I suspect even an approving spouse would never approve of what I like to wear to clubs. Well maybe one exception here , Amy you listening ; )

Sandi