... And nobody said anything...

[Maid_Marion]

People seem to be more open minded in the places that I go for recreation. The Highland Links golf course is right next to Provincetown, a longtime haven for folks on the LGBTQ+ spectrum.

[Jamie001]

Nobody says anything because it is none of their business. Think about other unusual things that people see on a daily basis. For example, people covered in tattoos on the arms, legs, and face, do they say anything? No!

People with multiple piercings and earrings that stretch their earlobes down to their shoulders. Do they say anything? No!


Why don't they say anything? The answer is because what you wear is none of their business as long as you are not doing something indecent like exposing your genitals.

[Marketa]

I started wearing obviously feminine bracelets recently. It's 3 thin chains with some element and even though people obviously noticed it, especially at work, nobody said a thing.

As a man I don't care if they say anything.
As a woman I like it when they say nice things.

[Fiona_44]

Just because people don't say anything doesn't mean they don't notice. The majority of people keep their opinions to themselves. Whether they accept me or not, all I really care about is if they're respectful in their interactions with me. And the majority have been respectful.

[Heisthebride]

What do you think anyone would say? We live in odd times, in person people are unlikely to say anything directly to you, online people have anonymity and will spew whatever bile without regard.

Does it mean acceptance to you? In a small way yes, the more we attempt to normalize it, the more it becomes accepted.

If they notice, do you think they would say something if you were a perfect stranger? Unlikely, back to my anonymity point. In today?s world of Tik Tok and Karen videos people are unlikely to confront you for fear of becoming Internet famous in a bad way.

If they know you, do you think they would say something? More likely to say something, but unlikely to say something negative.

Are you hoping someone notices and says something? I am not, I am hoping to just be as accepted as anyone else.

Are you hoping someone notices and "doesn't say" anything? Thats fine too, this is how it should be. If I?m wearing male shorts, would I hope someone said nothing?There should be no difference.

If they said something positive, would you be happy that they noticed? I would take it as the friendly gesture that it is, just like if someone comments on a funny t-shirt I?m wearing.

If they said something negative, would it bother you? Of course, it?s rude behavior.

Are you just happy that "nobody says anything"? Again, this is how it should be, go about your business

[jacques]

Hello Char,
I like your questions!
firstly a medic will have seen crossdressers before... their job is to heal people, end of!
secondly - I do think Society is becoming more accepting; though I am still not wearing a skirt in public but I have seen other MIADs doing just that. Most people do not care.
Only twice have had problems - once a shop refused to sell me a pair of fishnet tights (which I was actually buying for my daughter to wear at her dance class) and once a bigot was a bit threatening because he thought I was gay for wearing a male scarf that matched the colour of my male tee shirt.
I don't know if other people have noticed my underdressing; some must have. But I do get nice comments about my mens' hats and colourful tee shirts.
luv J

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Char I think that most people are just so caught up on their own Little world that theu just don't Care,

[Raychel]

What do you think anyone would say?
Does it mean acceptance to you?

I would refer to my thread "Opening the door"
this interaction went exactly like I would have hoped.
they certainly did notice, There was no denying that they saw me, and they said nothing
Business as usual. There was neither acceptence or negative reactions. Just another day.
This is the best I could hope for. One more person exposed to the crossdressing community
and no bad reactions. The more we are seen, The less people will object to seeing us.

[Sallee]

Generally no one cares. I am sure I get clocked some of the time but maybe not. I remember one time when I caught a man noticing me. so I figured, read, busted. Then I thought again, hes just noticing a good looking woman. I certainly notice those all the time.

[Paulette]

I went through TSA under dressed and androgynous was was asked if I want a male or female to do the pat down. It seems that my underwire bra and taped tuck did not fit the algorithm of the scanner. I said which ever one was free first as my flight was leaving shortly. I was running late and did not want to miss my flight. The female came over was told the results of the scan and proceeded to pat me down. She felt under my breasts and felt the underwire of my bra, nothing said. She them proceeded to my waist and then up each leg and briefly touch my crotch on both sides. Nothing said except your cleared. Did I pass heck no but did I conduct myself as if I had nothing to hide yes indeed. I was on my way to a 3 full day sessions with 2 technicians of electrolysis so I had a 4 day beard on my face. I spent the next 3 days dressed pretty much the same with the exception of the tape tuck as I was having laser hair removal in that area at the end of first day of electrolysis and taping for a few days after was not recommended. Never had anything said even though I was definitely a man with woman like clothing and mannerisms. Flew back home with a clean smooth slightly swollen face some eye and lip makeup and hair styled femme and this time the scanner operator designated me female so no pat down.

[kimdl93]

Let me try to answer these statements to the extent that they pertain :

What do you think anyone would say?
That depends on who the anyone is. As I said earlier, I suspect most people simply are focused on themselves, not others.

Does it mean acceptance to you? Not hearing a comment does not connote acceptance. It could mean a dozen things that I can never know without becoming much better at mind reading.

If they notice, do you think they would say something if you were a perfect stranger? No. Most people would not.

If they know you, do you think they would say something? If they recognize me, I would expect some kind of reaction. The type of reaction would depend on who they were, and perhaps, how much they already know.

Are you hoping someone notices and says something? No. I have been pleasantly surprised by positive comments and rarely have heard anything negative.

Are you hoping someone notices and "doesn't say" anything? No. I hope to blend in.

If they said something positive, would you be happy that they noticed? Yes.

If they said something negative, would it bother you? Yes, of course.

Are you just happy that "nobody says anything"? I do not go out seeking attention.

[Maid_Marion]

The oil heat maintainance guy said he thought I was my wife when he saw me a couple days earlier! I must have been wearing a skirt in the front yard or feminine crop top with short shorts.

Sometime later he was going to my next door neighbor's party, pulling a wagon with his stuff. He chatted for a couple minutes and told me a great spot to watch the Town Fireworks show.

Marion