How alone are you ? in the Crossdressing World ?

[Kayy]

Only two people have seen me dressed as Kayy, my wife and one of her friends. I don’t see the need to tell anyone else right now, but that could change.

[Fiona_44]

I live full time as a woman and everyone I know has met Fiona.

[Charlotte Sparkle]

My Wife knows and is supportive to a point. She does not wish to see me dressed as she said it would mess with her head. That is fine as I would struggle with that too. My youngest daughter knows and I have shown her a couple of photos of me dressed. She doesn’t seem too bothered and we enjoy browsing shops together looking at clothes, heels, makeup, perfumes and anything else girly.

My sister knows and is coming with me when I go for my first makeover. My Dad knew too but he’s passed away now. He was old school and was a bit worried about his mates finding out but generally he was understanding.

There are three other people that know, my sister-in-law, and two friends in my old place of work. I’m kind of sorry I told these three but none of them have reacted negatively towards me and I believe I was well and truly in the pink fog around that time. I do suspect one of my work friends may have blabbed to another colleague though. I could kind of tell by the way this colleague behaved when i was around. He would always bring the subject of cross dressing up using the derogatory term for the pastime.

[Jasmine23]

No one knows and I don't really see that changing, although I do hope to go for a makeover at some stage, so that would obviously involve someone seeing me. I'd love to have other crossdressing friends or even female friends to share this with, have girly nights out with etc., but, I can't see that happening. There's no way I'd tell any family or friends as they wouldn't understand. I actually thought about telling some female friends I worked with about 20 years ago, but, glad I didn't as they turned out not to be too trustworthy and haven't seen them in years!

[kayegirl]

It would be easier to say amongst my family, friends and acquaintances, who doesn't know. My older brother, my wife's sister, and probablyher oldest son who lives in California. Other than them, my wife, son, daughter and step daughter and theirvresoective partners, most of my neighbours, several trades connections, ie hairdresser, optician etc., and many other friends in my fraternal society. Not forgetting the friends/members of my support group.

[alwayshave]

Besides you lovely ladies and the girls in my meetup group, there is my wife. My mother, god rest her soul, also knew.

[ilisa]

My wife knows. She thinks my mom knows, but neither of us is certain of that. My sister did see me wearing my mom's half slip once when I was perhaps 9 or 10, and that would have made her 6 or 7. That is it. My friends would never understand, and so I'll just stay mum about it to them.

[April Rose]

I posted on this somewhere on this site last year or so; I sat down and wrote out who of my closest friends knew about my gender issues. I was quite surprised to realize that 23 of the 25 people closest to me knew about me. Now, I understand that once you get to 25 they are really not all that close. Since then add my wife's family and a few of her friends.

You would think that would mean that mean that I am fully out, but no, not in my mind at least. Only one of my neighbors knows(at least as far as I know) and I am not out around town, (except for my wife's friends) or in the organizations that I participate in, but I guess my closet door is open fairly wide.

I really don't mind if people know I'm in the transgender spectrum, I just hate telling them.

I will say this; my sense of isolation or aloneness has greatly diminished.

[Rileyaz]

Sadly, nobody that I know, knows. I wish it were different.

[Mary Loo]

A lot of replies in a short period of time! Interesting thread.

Though my previous posts have already stated more than once, I will repeat again here, that I am fully closeted. People who know are my wife, a therapist, a wig shop owner and her two assistants, and those from this site, so really just my wife. We are a little bit past a DADT state, but she still struggles to process and deal with it all.

[TheHiddenMe]

Let me start counting.

Besides my wife, there's her best friend (my phone outed me, but she has agreed not to tell my wife she knows, and she's cool with it), and the wife of a long time friend (they have a trans child; she knows and is very supportive, he doesn't).

Two former girlfriends, one who I exchange texts with all the time and I'm going to see her next month, and I'll be dressed with her.

My friend Michelle, and her two daughters. One of Michelle's clients is a high school classmate and she knows. Several of Michelle's chair renters know me, as I've been at her salon dressed and as boy me, and boy me mows the lawn regularly. Also three or four of Michelle's ex boyfriends. Also, a number of her friends have met me and several are Facebook friends of the boy me.

I've made friends of three sales agents and they've seen both sides of me. My wig sales woman was the mom of a kid I coached (I didn't know until she told me).

I belong to a transgender group but they usually see me dressed.

If I was guessing in round numbers,I'd probably say about 50 people, give or take.

[Lacey New]

Years ago, I worked with a woman and her slip was showing, I glanced at it and it started a conversation about nice silky lingerie and she asked if I liked lingerie and if I ever wondered what it would feel like wearing it. I got red faced, denied everything and cut off the conversation pretty quickly. Sometimes I look back and simply wonder what if I had been more receptive.

[Monique65]

My accepting wife is the only other person on the planet who knows I dress and I plan on keeping it that way.

[BiancaEstrella]

Prior to transitioning, at which point the flood gates basically burst open, a few dozen friends knew of my crossdressing. Some were local and willing to help with my looks, some were distant but appreciated knowing something about me that everybody didn't know.

[JulieC]

My wife knows and has known since we'd been dating for a short while. She is supportive.

Very much like Dee (TheHiddenMe above), I have former girlfriends who know. Two of them I'm connected to and could reach if I had to, but I'm really not in contact with anymore. One of those two almost certainly told a mutual friend, but I have no proof. A third I communicate with all the time. She knows, and has a bit of a time processing it. She doesn't think it would have caused us to break up had she learned of it when we were dating, but it would have required some delicate work to reach an equitable balance. I've never dressed around her, and she knows if she wants to see me dressed she can, but that I won't otherwise push it on her. That's our now-balance.

I attended a CD support group once ~20 years ago, and met with the organizer of the group outside of that. But, I'm not in touch with any of them now. An old friend who was a friend of a girlfriend (this one didn't know) knew, but we're not in touch anymore.

There's been a few random people in public who have seen me, but I don't know any of them. They are NPCs (non-player characters), two-dimensional to me and don't really exist in any sense that matters.

I'm otherwise completely closeted. My kids don't know, and don't currently have a need to know. That may change in the near future. My friends don't know. My job and coworkers don't know. But, when I retire in a few years I'm planning on having a coming-out meeting in my last week that I'm going to do as a DEI meeting to educate them about crossdressing, and how the organization I work for can interface with the world better to prevent ostracization of our community.

I've considered openly confronting my brother, as he absolutely despises our community and transgender individuals in general. He has said some very hateful things over the years. If I do confront him, I just might do it while crossdressed. I don't want to lose the connection that I have to him, but my tolerance for his hatred is low.

[kimdl93]

Closeness is a bit subjective, especially since I have mostly retired and moved away from the majority. I would say maybe a dozen fairly close friends know and support me.

[Marketa]

From my drab friends and family - nobody knows and most likely never will.

But as Marketa I'm building a new network of people and I'm already getting few friends, even though I can count them on one hand too. But it's progress

[Kelli_cd]

Before the lockdown, I had shared with Natalie, my favorite SA at Soma, that I was interested in more than just underdressing. She indulged me a few times and let me try on some of the limited fashions Soma had in her store. She even offered to go shopping with me. Sadly, the store was closed for months and she had to find employment elsewhere. I lost touch with her after that.
My wife knows about my panties and isn't at all happy about that. I haven't told her about my bras and I don't plan on ever doing so. She may or may not have noticed. Nothing has been said.

[Raven Skyy]

OMG After thinking about it. I have to say I have about 20+ people that know and have seen photos of me in full Raven Mode. Maybe 7 have actually been here present at the house when We've had dinner and drinks, or as my Significant other calls them Girls Gala. None of my family knows That I know of, I'm sure some have their suspicions.

[KrissyTN]

My ex wife knows...and I'm pretty sure she has told our kids but don't know due to estrangement issues. Anyway, I would love to find a local friend to dress up with and have gurly conversations. Current wife doesn't know and I'm ok with keeping it that way.

[Traci H]

Pretty much in the closet here. My wife knows and is not supportive. Just tolerates it a bit. There have been three therapists over the many years that I have seen, so they of course know. Beyond that, no one that I can be sure of. I wonder if my kids suspect as tiny clues may have been noticed. Who knows. Then of course you gals here, the only ones I talk to about this.