I think it's about validation. If a tree falls in the woods, and no one is there to hear it, does it make a sound? If a crossdresser wears a great outfit and no one is there to see it, does it really matter what she is wearing?
I think it's about validation. If a tree falls in the woods, and no one is there to hear it, does it make a sound? If a crossdresser wears a great outfit and no one is there to see it, does it really matter what she is wearing?
I would just like to NOT feel like I have to change my outfit every time I go outside for any reason. It's not about 'being seen', I would feel the same way if I walked around my house naked. it's just an inconvenience to have to change clothes.
Why do I feel that I need to dress in girl clothes? Still, simple. Something in my mind got mixed up, and that part thinks I'm female. But it's only the clothing part. I don't know why. I don't think like a woman. I don't communicate like a woman. I don't walk or talk like a woman. I can go months, years, decades without any contact at all with a friend; that would drive a woman nuts. But me? Doesn't matter. I'm not relationship driven.
But most women go crazy if anything about their man isn't 100% all masculine, all the time. Most men hate that we exist, because they think, 'Gee if it happened to him, oh my god it might happen to me!!!!', because we've all experienced feelings which we are told are only acceptable for women to have.
We still live in a primitive world, where primitive emotions rule the day.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
When I became old enough to be left alone at home, I started trying on whole outfits. It did not take long for me to want to go outside and walk all the way around the house while dressed pretty.
I don't know why, but dressing up in the house is only OK. Dressing up and working from home was kind of good, I guess. Maybe it is just an empty pleasure to dress pretty by myself. But, dressing up and going outside is somehow fulfilling. I think that a woman who dressed up pretty would not be satisfied just staying around the house. Maybe it is reasonable. Except that women don't normally dress up unless they already have plans.
(During the COVID lockdown, there was a movement where women would dress up at home just because they needed to feel pretty.)
I am a man who presents male and wears feminine clothes.
I blog about my outings: https://joeypress.wordpress.com/
In some ways I feel blessed in this regard in that there is no way I could ever hope to pass. I'm too tall, my features are too masculine, deep voice, and big hands. (Think football player and you get the idea.) While I'd like to go out dressed, that option is simply not thee so I don't give it another thought. Now I can go out wearing a bra and panties under my male clothes, but we all do that so no big deal. Right? I agree with others its about validation and acceptance.
However, if such things were generally accepted in society and there was no basic difference between men and women's attire where anything goes, would our dressing up be as special to us as it is now? I don't know.
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