For Cross-Dressers: Would You Transition If You Could?

[Jodi79]

not even a blimp on the radar. Im just a man that loves the look, feel, and beauty of women's clothes.

[PantyBoots]

That's the way I feel with lacy, silk lingerie. I like to feel feminine sometimes, and that's what does it.

[Andrea Renea]

Nope..My life is set in stone.

I would not want upset the apple cart with my
family and friends

[Petals]

I personally would not go full transition because I still like my male side, so I have best of both world?s!
It?s personal choice but I respect people who do go full transition

[Staci]

Not for me. Love to crossdress but that is it.

[ilisa]

I've thought about it some, and in the pink fog its easy for fantasy to take over. However, I cannot deny my male self and the fact that I like doing guy things too. I've got a nice pair started thanks to gynecomastia, and I wouldn't mind if they were a little larger. If they get larger thanks to some herbs I take to combat androgenic alopecia, a beta blocker, and a statin then thats fine. I'm on board with them being bigger, but thats the extent of it. The problem with transitioning is your male parts will most likely shrink and become useless. Thats something I'm not willing to let happen, and if you're thinking of transitioning then think long and hard (pun intended) about it. Consider all the things you do as a guy, and if you're willing to give that up. Transitioning will change you mentally putting you into girl mode, and once on that road you might find it difficult to reverse it.

[Sabine7]

Hi Ilisa,
I have been looking at this problem in a very similar way as you for years. However, it changed recently. It looks like I have fallen in a black hole of femininity completely. Male values and virtues are mine not any longer but those of females. I live in a male mode to make my successful family and social relationships possible. So, it's like simulating my masculinity, remains of which left frozen on the event horizon of the black hole. I like staying in the female mode as long as possible. I am not sure if I consider myself a woman but for sure I would like to be one. I desire having a female body but I don't think the transition is an option for me. I don't believe it could be successful and satisfactory due to my body condition and age. As far as I know I am suffering from a moderate gender dysphoria and if I had a gynecomastia or lost my male parts I would not cry.

[Violetgray]

In my opinion surgury and hormones are just Extreme Crossdressing. If a full and real transition were scientifically possible, as in I'd actually become a genetic female, then I'd consider it but probably not do it. If, as Kris mentioned, I could switch back and forth at will, oh hell yeah!

O.k. but it isn't, though. Dressing is temporary in a way that hormones and surgery are not.

As for myself, the best way to describe it is that I want to like what I see when I look in the mirror. With the changes I would make living as a woman full time would be the end result.

[VS Fan]

Not in the cards for me, but even if it were an option, probably not. I don't think I AM a woman, I simply wish I were one. I hate myself in a lot of ways, but I don't think transitioning would change that, sadly it would likely give me more reasons to be unhappy with myself.

[ilisa]

Hi Ilisa,
I have been looking at this problem in a very similar way as you for years. However, it changed recently. It looks like I have fallen in a black hole of femininity completely. Male values and virtues are mine not any longer but those of females.

Hi Sabine,

If you don't mind me asking, did something make your outlook change in this regard? I'm curious. If you don't wish to say you can ignore my question. Its all good.

[HollyGreene]

I wish I had been born female, but I don't think that I am female, or identify as female, so no, I would not transition.

[Sabine7]

Hi Ilisa,
it's not a problem we can talk about this a little. I have no idea what changed my perspective, it's just happening and I can observe that with increasing pleasure. I guess the critical mass of my femininity has been reached with age and hours spent en-femme. Since I remember, I was always jealous about female body and dresses. When I look at myself in the mirror fully dressed from head to toe as a woman, I like the picture and feel happy and accomplished. I can hardly resist doing that due to the desire to be woman. Either my female part of brain has evolved in time or I have lost the fear against accepting my female soul. Honestly, I have no ambition to be a male anymore - while I still have to be for different reasons - and would stay on the female side longer and longer or even permanently if possible.
Sabine

[char GG]

I may not be qualified to talk about this topic, but I will share some info from my husband's friend who started taking hormones a few months ago.

He longed to be female and when he started down that route, he was elated! He felt there was breast growth, and that people would look at him differently (in a positive way). Six months later, he is now questioning himself. Was it a mistake? Should he stop? His family didn't feel different about him. Friends didn't appear out of the woodwork. He is again - unhappy.

So, my point is, it's all well and good to speculate how life would be different. Maybe for some people, it is different. But the mental health component has to be addressed too. Obviously, in the friend's case, there was a lot of unresolved issues and depression that hormones didn't help.

[simoneisatg]

In isolation, yes. 100%

But nothing is in isolation, so I have to ask myself whether or not my life would be better if I did. I can't convince myself (yet) that it would be

[Jessica S]

Not even a thought. I am a crossdresser and I like being me as a guy. And I like being able to dress up and feeling a little softer.

[Clarissa]

Yes. Been on HRT since November 2024! 😊

[joanna4]

Yes, happy with transitioning

[Charlotte Sparkle]

A bit late to the party but wanted to write about my current feelings.

If I were starting out in life again, then yes, without hesitation, I believe I would transition. That truth sits deeply with me, and I feel it more strongly as time goes on. But where I am now, married, with children, and a life built around love and responsibility, transitioning no longer feels possible. It?s become more of a quiet, persistent dream. A ?what if? I carry with me every day.

That doesn?t stop the thoughts, though. I still think about it constantly. The longing is real, even when I know I won't act on it. And sometimes, that gap between who I am and who I wish I could be feels incredibly hard to live with.

[Teri Ray]

Put me on the no desire to transition list. Happy living in both camps. Now ask me if I would love to have more female features as a male like a nice nose, plump lips, androgynous voice and size 8 body.

[Sallee]

Would I transition if I could Well, I probably could if I wanted to. But I guess I don't. I enjoy and get a kick out of CDing when I have the time and the desire, not often enough. But I have found when I do have the time after a few days of gurling around I grow tried of it. The first couple of days are a real kick I'll go about everywhere just to see how well I pass, usually well enough that I don't get read. I don't dress extravagant, flats, slacks, minimal makeup, enough to look fem. I try to dress for the occasion, the club is obviously a little more out there. The mall not so much. I remember once I went to a group meeting, I don't remember where, but at the end of the meeting I went to thank the real woman who was the speaker and she mistook me for a spouse. So I guess I passed well that night. Now there are times when the desire to slip into a bra is very strong, other times not so much and I am dressing just because I have the time available and might not have again for awhile.
I have my own questions about this fetish, if thats what it is, Why? generally I could be doing something more productive. Is it a waste of time? So is stamp collecting, although Cding is certainly more than just a hobby although I try to look at it like that If I did it all the time a bra and panties would be just cloths.

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lots of good answers to a very good question. Do what makes you happy and don't worry if your a good looking woman or to ugly to pass. "Don't worry be happy"

[Rachel05]

I have been crossdressing since I was 10yo, although back then I didn't really know what I was doing, only that it gave me an escape and it made me feel nice, now, 50 plus years on, I still get the same feelings as I did back then, I love to escape into my alter ego and I adore the feeling of being fully dressed, it makes me feel really nice, but I have never in all those years wanted for it to be anything else, I have never wanted to transition, happy in my crossdressing life

[audreyinalbany]

I'min the same camp as Sallee pretty much 100%. all things in moderation, even crossdressing

[Heather Anne]

Good question. I might if I felt I was a woman trapped in a man's body. I don't feel that way. I crossdress almost every day when I am home. From the neck down. I go out regularly fully dressed en femme usually about twice a week and monthly during a support group meeting, Sigma Epsilon Atlanta

[simoneisatg]

100% wish to transition.

However, the big question for me is would my life be better or worse if I did? There are many factors that go into answering that question - such as would the lives of those I love (my wife, my family) be the same if I did, and how would that make me feel. I can't honestly get to the point where I believe my situation improves.

If that changes, then perhaps I will, but for now I can't see how I can do it

[ShelbyDawn]

"If you could" are such big words. If I could, absolutely, but that's not in the cards.

"If I could" involves so much more than just me. It's where I am in life, it's my family and friends, it's all the things I have at risk, including my ability to be happy with the results(I'm 68, that ability diminishes a little every day.).

Like so many of us, I'd love to actually be a woman, to have been born one, and If I could be sixteen again, or if I could go back and be me at sixteen with the social and medical options that are available today, I'd transition so fast it would make my head spin. Those options aren't on the table, so, I guess my answer is yes, I just know it can never happen for me.