Three Threads

[Rochal Tukque]

I have been following three threads. Crossdressing alone, boobs blessing or curse, crossdresser dating men. On occasion I make it to Sacramento and hangout with probably the largest crossdressing community in the state. Over the years I have heard overwhelmingly. Alone CD?s are looking for women. But yet the vast majority have expressed a want for their own natural breasts! Such a dichotomy. I?m sure most of us are well aware of the endless possibilities of women looking for a crossdresser guy with boobs. LOL.
So comes the discussion of a CD dating men, again across the board what I was hearing over and over NO WAY! I?m not gay. In that defense, being born intersexed and bisexual I think a relationship with a like minded CD could be not only interesting but a lot of fun. You know the birds of feather, kindred spirits thing. Could be girl friends, guys pals, boy girl girl boy. Playing off each other shopping dressing doing the guy things women won?t do. Who knows. In the end my post is not meant to criticize or disrespect anyone to each other?s own. To much of that going on now.
Hugs Rochal

[Sandi Beech]

While the majority of people here are not gay, they tend to be the most vocal about that fact. We have a wide spectrum here, and I am wondering if those who lean in other directions are a bit intimidated by the number of posts stating crossdressers are not gay.

Just my 2 cents

Sandi

[Genifer Teal]

Of all places, people here should know that gender identity and sexual preference are separate. Having boobs does not exclude you from dating women. That wholesome church lady may not be interested, but you never know who might be.

As far as cd on cd dating goes, for me, it all depends on the person. If they are cd, there is a whole lot more boxes that need to be ticked for it to be right. It's much less likely to work out but not impossible.

[alwayshave]

While the majority of people here are not gay, they tend to be the most vocal about that fact.

Sandi, I think that most people here are fighting back against the societal belief that all crossdressers are gay. Not attacking those who are gay or bisexual.

[chrissy111]

As we only get one life, why can't people just let others live the life they want. As long as you are decent person, I don't care what your sexual preference is.

[audreyinalbany]

people seem to think that every relationship is about sex, sex, sex. I'm sure homosexual couples do the deed about as often as us long term heterosexual couples. Maybe people just love each other.

[Sabine7]

I think I am straight and I don't date at all. However, I used to fantasize about playing a female role that makes me feel happy and accomplished. I have no idea what would happen in reality eventually if being given an opportunity in female mode.

[docrobbysherry]

I think of male dressers and vanilla men the same.

When they protest being gay too loudly? I wonder about them!

[DianeT]

There's protesting and protesting. There's wanting to be recognized as who you are, or think you are when you consider yourself heterosexual. And there's pushing it a bit too much. I don't think that people protesting much about being gay have necessarily a gay inclination. After all, from a tender age, being considered gay used to be considered offending for heterosexual males, and derogatory versions of the term often used as insults, so some of us have this natural tendency to fear the qualification. But we're all adults now, and somebody asking us if we are gay, or considering that we are gay for reason A or B, in these forums, should elicit a courteous and informed response just as for any other casual subject (I know it's not really a casual subject. Yet. But it should be).
I wrote myself a few posts (and a couple threads) where I ask myself about my heterosexuality, or the heterosexuality of crossdressers more generally. It's an interesting topic when you consider yourself gender fluid. Also because wives ask themselves this question about their crossdressing husbands, and to answer their questions, there's some work and thinking to do on yourself.