Roses and thorns

[@tammileetilliso]

To love a rose, you must also love its thorns.
This makes me think: when we seek love and acceptance by being who we truly are, we not only show our beauty and delicacy, but also our weaknesses, insecurities, and challenges.

Truly loving means embracing both sides: the beauty and the difficulties, the courage and the fears, the pleasure and the pains along the way.

So, what do you think?
When it comes to experiencing crossdressing or any expression of our identity, have you ever felt that someone saw not only the "rose" but also the "thorns"?and still chose to stay?

[docrobbysherry]

I think I get what you're trying to say, Tam. "Take the bad with the good." But, your metiphor premis isn't correct.

I love dogs. But, don't own one because of the noise, dirt, smell, and responsibility! U truly CAN love someone/thing and still NOT love/accept the thorns that go with it!

[Maria 60]

Well they say we would never have known sugar is sweet without tasting something sour. Unfortunately I always say that everyone has some form of skeleton hanging in there closet. It's funny you mention this because when I'm apologizing to my wife that she has to see her husband like this and deal with it all. She tells me that I deal with a lot of her faults and bad habits, and that's what makes a relationship. Giving and taking the good with the bad. Every rose has there thorn and as far as I'm concerned all of us have there faults that's our thorn. Thanks for the interesting post.

[kimdl93]

The same is true for all humans. We have positives and negatives. In my experience our partners are more accepting of the negatives, while we are aware of the negatives. That goes way beyond how we choose to dress.

IMHO the thorns are selfishness expressed in its many forms

[SaraLin]

But - so many of our SO's want insist that we "de-thorn."
This, of course, doesn't work on a healthy, living rose. It's only after it's been cut away from its roots, and is in the process of dying.


Sorry - I guess I'm a bit moody this morning.

[Di]

I like your take on it.
But for myself as a GG I had very few thorns with ( RIP) Sherlyn .
I learned on here my experience was t
So I guess for partners it is how many thorns and how much is roses.
Cding to me is not a thorn …..I am speaking on some of the other things we read about on here between couples that CDs blame on cding .

[Sabine7]

What once might have been a thorn for me it can be the most previous and desirable part of femininity and being a woman now. My perspective has changed and I have accepted whatever it could be a disadvantage or somehow questionable thing of being female.