So, this coming week my therapist wants to talk about ways I relieve my stress.
She and I have a good rapport with each other but I'm trying to figure out the best way to tell her about my dressing.
Just say, oh btw, or I do have something I do that helps me that I've done since I was 10/11.
Has anyone else told their therapist, and if so - how did you do it?
Thoughts, ideas, warnings (ha)?
If you have any photos of yourself, that would be a good thing to show your therapist
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You say you have a good rapport with your therapist. I don't see that you should have any problem telling her. The only thing holding you back is you.
Therapist have heard it all before. Please don't think you should be embarrassed.
Anything you say in therapy is privileged.
I do remember the first time I spoke to a psychologist and said I dressed in women's clothes. At that time I was distinctly DRAB and I did feel uncomfortable. But I was there for help and not opening up was not going to achieve anything.
You are not doing anything wrong just different.
Good luck.
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Well since you two have a good relationship maybe show up dressed as Sasha. If and when I see a therapist I plan on doing it dressed my biggest reason for going would be to discuss my dressing and how to navigate this with my wife.
It's pretty low risk telling a therapist anything so I wouldn't over think it. What ever is most comfortable will make it easier. Once the ice is broken it will probably feel sooo relieving. On my therapy intake form I said I wanted to work on a few things...one of which was my CDing. I didn't have to say anything face to face and once I hit "send" there was no turning back. Scary, but felt good. So maybe a letter would work if you feel stressed and want to avoid that awkward part of coming out. It's great that you have a good rapport. If you didn't, you might consider finding a different therapist. That connection is really important to make progress.
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Health care professionals see everything, so if you show up wearing a dress it's no big deal. I go to doctor appointments wearing dresses and I'm always treated with respect.
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Back when I started seeing a psychologist, I knew i would have to address the subject, but I put it off for about three weeks. I was scared to death. When I finally said I am a cross dresser, she simply smiled and remarked, “Its not a crime, you know.”
She tried her best to help me accept that and other realities of life.
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Please tell your therapist.
No point in going if you don’t
It’s nothing to be ashamed of stop acting like it is.
And noooo don’t show up dressed why put that stress on yourself.
I don’t think ( did not look) that you live your life going out dressed alot when you are asking about telling her.
Save that for later if that is what you want to do .
But please be real and please tell her it will help you.
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I told my doctor “I like to wear a dress sometimes”.
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Thank you everyone.
I appreciate everything everyone has said. Funny thing is, I told my wife when we were dating, told my GP when I started going to her to alleviate the surprise during a physical, no problem. I walk into shops and talk about clothes with the SA's without even blinking.
But for some reason I am drawing a blank when I think about how to tell the therapist. I'm not scared, not nervous, just am drawing a complete blank.
When I started seeing a therapist she already knew from my wife. We were in the beginnings of divorce. Best thing I did was write a LONG email that hit most of the high points from when I was a kid. The whole therapy experience was very good, very cathartic for me. I never thought I see one, but at that time I was doing twice a week, and I couldn't wait for the next one.
The only way you're going to get the maximum out of it is to open up. For me, the therapy was more in the opening up than it was in whatever she told me. You're going to therapy for a reason. You should open up.
Haven't done an email, but I did write out a list of the trauma's including the near deaths I've had, the most recent of which is what led me to therapy.
Going through all of those I had no problem with, I dunno. Guess I'm just a riddle wrapped in an enigma to borrow from Churchill.
you're WAYYYYY overthinking it. Just tell her. She will be neither surprised nor judgmental. and if she is, find a new therapist
You're probably right Audrey - just haven't ever hit a hard stop like this before.
I agree that you're overthinking it. Maybe start by asking your therapist what to do when you hit a hard stop. I'm I'm any example, once you start, you'll say things you never thought you tell another person. Again for me, those things needed to come out.
If you’re seeing a therapist I think it is only going to help you in the long term if she knows everything. Who knows where the conversation can turn and what you can uncover. I say go for it!
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Thanks everyone, I really appreciate the encouragement and insight.
My first words to mine were about being a cd. However I could see it would be harder to bring it up after you have already been seeing her a while. Nevertheless I would hope you do. It?s very helpful to be able to discuss these issues in an accepting environment. I did not dress at first but did so pretty soon after starting. Both of mine were totaling encouraging about it.
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