Throughout the many years of my dressing, there has been a progression - from adding different items of clothing until fully dressed from top to toe with a wig and forms, going to a make-up artist, going out in public, a bar, a counsellor, a dominatrix, and I am going to a karaoke session soon. I am wondering what my next step should be. I think one aim would be to go on public transport but I don't think I have the nerve! Any comments from the members on here?
Lucy,
I checked out your photo from 10 years ago and you could pass and go anywhere. Public transport shouldn't be any more of a problem than if you were a natal female.
You could go anywhere that is safe for a female to go.
When I go out for the day I do whatever I would do as a female and also any other things I need to do as a male in daily life. I go to hardware and lumber stores. I even shopped and visited several auto dealerships and bought my last van as a female. I did all the paperwork etc. and return visits as a female and was treated no different than you would expect anyone else to be treated.
The more you are out and about, the more you become comfortable and realize that even if people aren't sure you are a female, most everyone will treat you respectably.
Suzi Q
I have slowly progressed into wearing more clothing designed for women.
When I was younger, all I wore was lingerie. Now I wear almost anything a woman would wear.
After meeting my current wife and with her support the amount of clothing has increased. Like I said at the time when I met my wife, all I wore was lingerie. With her support I started with a simple maxi dress, and it has increased slowly throughout the years.
At the current time, I do not wear any type of make-up. But again, this year I started wearing perfume on a regular basis. I have thought about wearing make-up now and then, but since I do not go out in public, I talk myself out of it.
I did go out in public once 2 years ago. My wife suggested that while we were on vacation that I dress driving to our destination and back home. I will admit the only time I got out of the car was to put more gas in the car. The first time I was very nervous, thinking everyone was looking at me. I finally just relaxed and enjoyed being out in public. It was at our last stop on our way back home, that my wife suggested that I go inside and get a drink. I asked my wife to come with me for support. Even though I wasn't wearing any make-up, I know I can pass at a distance but not up close. I was treated like any other customer.
So, in my opinion it is very natural to want to progress while crossdressing.
Lucy,
Although I'm on the other side of the pond using public transport isn't as scary as it seems. I've used bus and train all without incident, in fact on several bus journeys I got chatting with fellow travelers. For a first journey I'd say go once the morning rush hour has finished, you'll stand a better chance of getting a seat!
I would advise against using public transport at times when the "party people" are found using public transport. Many "pre-load" with alcohol before setting out and finding yourself faced with a bunch of already well oiled youths isn't something I'd relish even if in drab. The homeward leg, well, you know what that can be like.
Like most things, it's applying common sense. Dress like a typical traveler heading out to the shops and you'll be fine.
Who dares wears Get in, get out without being noticed
What more are you looking for in experiences?
O wad some Pow'r the giftie gie us
To see oursels as ithers see us!
Lucy, unless you live in some unfriendly area, then public transport is not an issue. People get in, mind their business and get out. Source: I used public transport dozens of times without a single issue.
Also maybe one more milestone for future: go to theatre/opera/concert, that's preferred to go to in a gown.
It sounds like what you described you already did was like climbing a mountain, public transit seems like a small hill. But of course this is interacting with the public closer and I love a lot of the advice of caution. Lots of experience here.
After chatting with the folks here for a couple years I wanted more than anything to meet other dressers in person. So, I attended my 1st T event in Atlanta, the SCC.
Where I met over 40 CD.com members among the 700+ T's there. Some who I knew, but only online. I found T's to be the most interesting, diverse, and accepting people!
Since then I've met maybe a 1000 more!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
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