Wife risks me being outed?

[JesseVF]

Something happened a couple days ago that I would like to share as this really took me by surprise.
As background I often dress in the evenings with shapewear but never with wig or makeup as this is kind of a line my wife and I don?t cross.
I was dressed head to toe the other day, purse and all, ready to head out to my therapy meeting, which is the only time I fully dress - unless she is away. I always just say good bye on my way out from another room so that she doesn?t see me. So I say see ya and I hear - can you come look at this? I think - seriously - you know how I?m dressed right now.I cautiously approach and see she is outside on our patio, and she thinks there is a watering issue with garden. Again she says can you come look at this? So I?m thinking ok I guess you realize what you?re getting into here. So now I?m on the patio fully dressed which I never even do by myself for obvious reasons, and we just start having this garden discussion like it?s perfectly normal! While it felt nice in a way of course but mostly my mind is racing thinking why is she doing this, and also kind of panicky about how risky this is to be seen by neighbors - which is usually a big concern of hers - and mine. After a while i said ok I have to go.
When I returned home instead of going straight upstairs to change i thought well, seeing as happened earlier, maybe it would be ok to hang out in our living room for a while. We talked about plans for the rest of the day and she said well we can go whenever you want to change. Or she offered to go by herself if I didn?t want to change for the day.
I?m not rushing to see this as any grand new super high level of acceptance or anything but it does give me a sense that maybe I?m underestimating her tolerance to my cding, at least at times.
Anyway sorry I know this is not the most exciting experience compared to others but it was kind of a shocker to me.

[Traci H]

Jesse, if that happened to me, I too would be trying to process the events. I?m sure you are hopeful things have become more accepting or normal so to speak, yet trying not to read too much into it. Many of us have been lead down that path with mixed results.

A spouses fear of us being seen is high on their lust if fears. Makes you wonder what msyboy may not have changed. I hope for your sake it is indeed a new level of acceptance or say less fear on her part.

Not exciting news? I would beg to differ.

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Also curious about how you were dressed. Dress, skirt, pants. Curious about how you present at your therapist and what the neighbors would see.

[Cheryl T]

That kind of happened to me too.
Although she wasn't opposed to me dressing fully in the house we'd never done anything outside at home. Then one nice Saturday I was taking some photos and she said "i'll take them for you". She took the camera and started walking outside. I was surprised and she just said "C'mon, you can pose by the flower bed. You're outfit will look nice with the background." I followed and we did some shots in different areas and then we went to the patio and sat and talked like it was all normal. She told me she didn't care about the neighbors anymore and if I was comfortable then she was too.
It took a bit to get used to it, but it was such a wonderful moment with her showing her acceptance.

[Heather76]

My wife also prefers not to see me with makeup and a wig. Although she has on a few occasions seen me like that, I try to honor her request by waiting until after she goes to bed to "finish getting dressed." If she suggested I go outside with her while fully dressed, that would be a BIG deal to me. And, yes, I would be excited having that experience.

[BustyOlivia]

Wow! Congrats on taking such big risks! Sounds like you might have made it unseen by your neighbors too! The whole after session when you came home and stayed dressed sounds like a dream come true! Also didn?t know therapists would want to see you dressed, I always wished I could have therapy as Olivia too. Hope your future times dressed are accepted more and more. Maybe your wife can be more comfortable than you think at times huh? Either way, good luck and congrats on your night