Traditional female roles

[Rochal Tukque]

Not being misogynistic here, but at least here in the USA the push is still alive and well as to traditional female roles. Being women do the cooking and cleaning men are the bread winners. Right, wrong, whatever, it?s still very much what is. The question I have do find yourself a crossdresser falling into the more feminine roles. Consciously or unconsciously? Myself now a caregiver a lot of stuff the wife used to do now falls to me. Not long in the past I found myself taking on things around the house and shopping that I would have passed on. Looking for makeup for wife. Watching the mostly female dominated cooking shows on PBS to learn more about cooking different things. You get the point. That brings us to Thanksgiving, I hate cooking the turkey, but I really enjoy doing the meal for others and entertaining the guests. Of course with all the feminine touches. How about you?
Hugs Rochal

[Bea_]

I did a lot of caregiving for my wife before retirement but after retiring seven years ago, I became pretty much a full time caregiver. Certain parts are not bad but I suck at much of it. I've done 100% of the grocery shopping for decades. I do 90% of the cooking but it's definitely not gourmet. More short order. Not that great at cleaning either but manage. She kept a very nice house when she was able.

I don't think the role is so feminine for me. I dress femme at home daily and don't do special for the chores.

[kayegirl]

I was also a carer for my late wife, and later when living alone for a period, I had to do all of the household chores. Now with my second lovely wife, we split the duties between us. She tends to do most of the cooking whilst I do the cleaning, amongst other kobs. One task that I find strangely theraputic is the ironing of fresh laundry.

[char GG]

We were both full time breadwinners. Therefore, we both had to split the chores. There was no male or female role.

[Amelie]

Being poor and living on my own for most of my life, I had to know how to do everything. If I didn't cook I'd starve. If I didn't know how to fix a roof I'd have leaks everywhere. If I couldn't fix a home heater I'd freeze to death. Some clothes were too expensive for me so I learned to sew and made my own. I learned how to garden/small farming for food. I'm now learning what wild plants I could use from the woods in case the world goes belly-up. Had to do unspeakable things for money. Being alone makes one forget the feminine/masculine ways of life. One has to find a way.

In my life there is no such thing as feminine and masculine chores. I had to learn to do everything I needed in life or I wouldn't survive.

[chrissy111]

Ever since my wife asked me to quit work and be her full time wife I do everything around the house. Before that I always did about 90 percent.

[Jillcder]

Chrissy, sounds like you and your wife have the perfect arrangement I would absolutely love being my wifes full time wife.

[Traci H]

This strikes a chord with me. I find the push over the last few decades by feminists to push for men to partake in household duties more is one sided. No matter how I dressed, I cook, clean, shop for groceries, etc. However when the tables are turned and there?s maintenance to be done, the better half is no where to be found. It?s a very lopsided standard in my world. Something as simple as cleaning the car interior. If I didn?t do it, my wife?s car would be a rolling pig stye. She has never cleaned it. And who always cleans the nasty parts of the bathroom. Anything below counter level.

Now if I could dress and cook, clean, etc, I would feel much better about it. Vent over.

[JesseVF]

I do the vast majority of cooking, food shopping, cleaning, and all car/home maintenance. My wife does the laundry - apparently I don?t do it correctly - but I do the ironing. I pay some bills but she has taken over most financial management.
We started off together with a more even split of everything but slowly evolved to where it is now. Not sure exactly how that happened. She became more successful career wise, so I did have to take on responsibility for everything including taking care of the kids as she traveled a lot, so maybe that?s where it started. Anyway I?ve been happy assuming more of the traditional female roles.
As far as Thanksgiving it?s kind of funny because for a couple times a year, like for Holiday parties, she cooks the entire meal, so everyone assumes she cooks all the time.

[April Rose]

Cooking, cleaning, laundry,sewing, shopping, childcare, decorating, entertaining, adult care giving, I have done them all. In pants or in a dress. Stereotypes are just that. Stereotypes.

Men or women should be able to do what they need to do or want to do, wear what they need to wear or want to wear, within the bounds of justice and morality, tradition be damned.

[MsEva]

I have always been able to complete shared responsibilities but I like to do the laundry, clean the house, and cook both inside and grill outside for most of our meals. Dear wife is the one responsible for bills and financial stuff. I am also in charge of outside lawn care and repairs. We both share our duties as grandparents with our 5 month old grand daughter. We have her three to four times a week. Feels natural to us.

[docrobbysherry]

No. I live alone now. So, I cook, but nothing that takes over 15 minutes. My cleaning is so bad I can never find anything and my daughters and granddaughters won't even enter my house anymore because of the dust and spiders!

I'm SO JEALOUS of those of u that put on a maid's outfit and want to clean house!

[Cheryl T]

Before retirement I never did the household chores. I just worked too much and my wife handled all those thing while I maintained the outside of the house/property.
Now that we have retired and I dress nearly daily I do so much more about the house. Laundry, cleaning, cooking and now for the holidays, helping her decorate. I enjoy all these things as much as anything else and I feel I've arrived where I always wanted to be. I've become the "average woman". No longer just the show piece, the model or the fashionista. I'm now just like most other women and I love it.

[Georgia_Maine]

My wife and I have shared work equally from the start, be it housekeeping cooking or repairs, even the autos. It was just who had the most time or got to it first. We raised our kids to be the same way.