Flirted with in Home Depot?

[Joanie CD]

I had to run into Home Depot for a couple of small items, and having found one of them, a man turned to me and said "you look nice". I was dressed up a bit for HD, wearing a denim skirt, dark red tights, short black booties, and a grey sweater. I thought it was a cute outfit. I said thank you and walked on. He came up to me and said "what kind of project are you working on?", so I told him. I am 99.99% sure he wasn't being sarcastic or trying to make a point. I've never ever been complimented by a man when out as Joanie. Polite lady that I am, I asked him what he was working on, which turned out to be a shelf for his antique model trains. At that point I said "nice chatting with you" and walked on. I didn't want to lead him on or get into an uncomfortable situation. I felt both delighted that someone found me attractive, and a little bit of what I think GGs feel when approached by a male stranger -- "what's he up to?". I chose to take it as a nice guy who genuinely thought I looked OK, and was maybe flirting a little. I am not the most aware person -- my wife says she had to all but sit in my lap to get my attention when we first met. :-)

[ellbee]

Yes, from my experience, some men will come "sniffing around" sometimes.

And they will do it in various ways & levels.


Sounds like this may have been a similar situation.



I've gotten more used to it over the years. But it still is always a bit surreal & unexpected.

Very flattering, though, too. I admire their confidence & respectfulness.



Anyway, it is what it is. Comes with the territory, I guess.

While one's mileage may vary, I've always found it to be a positive experience, seeing how the other half may live.

[Sandi Beech]

Sounds like someone who was probably lonely and just liked talking to people. Usually those are innocent. People often try to read too much into a small interaction.

All good though and better than having anything negative that?s for sure.

Sandi

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

I talk to strangers all the time. Sex isn't relevant. My intention is simple, to talk to someone for a second. You might be reading too much into it.

[Crissy 107]

Sounds like a very nice interaction Joanie, I can see it made you smile inside and that is wonderful.
Thanks for sharing this

[Maria 60]

I'm not one to just strike up a conversation with a women or man when out shopping. I have a few co-workers who will just talk to anyone, a cashier or someone as we are just waiting in line. Some people just have the gift of saying the right thing in the right tune and women just put on smiles and they have a conversation. I always tell them if I made that same comment I would probably just get a dirty look.
It's a good thing he was sincere and gave you a compliment and didn't end up following you to your car like my daughters and wife have explained happened to them at times. It seems like the world has changed and even if someone is just being polite we question what they are up to. I believe it must have felt nice to receive a nice compliment and it must have made your day a little better. Cheers!

[Joanie CD]

Maria 60, it did feel nice. I agree it's a shame that we have to second-guess compliments.

Also, I was telling my GG friend about this, and she asked if maybe he was a crossdresser and wanted to let me know I looked OK. I hadn't even thought of that.

[ellbee]

Entirely possible one is reading too much into this interaction. Never truly know what may be going thru someone's head at the time.


However, I pose this question:

How many of you have, while out shopping in a store or something, walked up to another male stranger, told him he looked nice, then proceeded to try to make conversation?

[Natalie5004]

I speak with older women in grocery stores all the time. They like the interaction mostly.

[Rachelakld]

I chat to anyone and everyone, my dad is the same.
Complimenting someone on their looks is a nice way to break the ice, as well as if someone is looking to buy the same thing or similar as me.
They don't all expect a sexual response.
Life's meant to be fun, just enjoy it

[April Rose]

I have never in my life told a male stranger that he looked nice. Let alone try to start a conversation that way!

Do gay males do that?

I did once have a gay guy try to pick me up while I was fixing my motorcycle in a parking. At first I thought the things he was asking me were weird. Then as they got kinkier the penny dropped. He seemed harmless enough.

[GaleWarning]

The compliment was surely not aimed at a 'male stranger' but at a person nicely dressed in female clothing. I have often done this, with no sexual intent whatsoever!

The interest shown in your project, Joanie, seems sincere. Your response was natural.

As others have said, perhaps you read too much into the exchange?

You were fortunate to encounter someone who accepted you as you are and treated you with respect.