A Crossdressing Journey: Adjusting to Retirement

[Karen RHT]

I retired over 10 years ago but still lead a very active lifestyle. My wife retired before I did and spends most of her time at home as we're out together for most social engagements, an she doesn't have any real interests outside the home. My wife has become quite comfortable with me being dressed inside our home, but insists I not leave our home while I'm dressed. I've stepped outside briefly now and then to take out trash or do some other minor chore and she's gradually accepted that. I continue to appreciate the level of acceptance my wife has shown, but I still want to go out and about as Karen. Even in retirement, that's a work in progress.


Karen

[Helen_Highwater]

I suspect this is the path I will take as I am kind of doing it now. Did you need to dress change as you got older how was it different

Paula,

I've always been a conservative dresser, never one to be overly glamorous. Smart chic if going out for the night and smart casual when say out shopping. Around the house it's plain pull on knee length skirts, Tee style top, in the winter thick hose and a cardi for warmth. Evening more likely skirt and blouse or a modest dress. Always with jogging bottoms and a fleece top to pull on if the need to go CU arises.

One thing I would say is it's easy to let your wardrobe grow too big. Keeping things out of sight and in moderation are important factors to consider. I've enough things to wear something different every day for two weeks. However that would mean a lot more washing and drying which is why I tend to wear the same skirt/top combo for a week, change of underwear of course. Washing and drying your things so that they aren't on obvious display when in a DADT relationship is another important consideration.

I don't panic anymore if while dressed my SO walks in on me and I haven't heard her coming but if say I'm upstairs in my office and I hear her on the stairs then I'll do my best to go CU just out of respect for her desire not to see me dressed. You learn how to make things work.

[KristyPa]

Hi Paula,
I?m not married but have a live in girlfriend for 35 years, she has no idea of my so-called Kristy life

Like you for 12 years or so I traveled for work 5 nights a week until 2005. During those years I went out during the week on a regular bases
The last 20 years I get out maybe 5 times a year when she?s out of town.
I miss my girl time a lot but have no choice I simply can?t be Kristy if she is home, I have no interest in leaving the house for a couple hours to be Kristy if I can?t go all the with makeup nails done I?m not going to do it.

I?m still not retired if I was it still wouldn?t change anything. Having to stay in hotels or apartments during the week is not worth it I prefer being home I hate motels and out of town restaurants and hotel bars.

I?m not getting my girl time which I hate but have no choice. I now check out a few web sites like this for my girl time.

Isn?t it something how the girl thing sticks with us, I like that it does and enjoy my female thoughts it?s always been part of my life although mostly in private.