Take a moment to think about how many discussions we have here about getting SOs to understand us. Think about all the posts we have about getting other folks to understand we are just folks who's eyes are just naturally drawn to the ladies isle when we walk into a store.Originally Posted by Sophia Rearen
Then factor in how many other types of CD there are and how many aspects to it there are.
This guy had probably established a degree of definition for you that he was so-so comfortable with. But his wife sounds like a bit of a tease; that coupled with the introduction of swapping clothing probably threw his 'box' for you into question. I'm guessing that there was some new talk/flirt/glances from his SO that looked like flirting, and some uneasy looks from your SO that made him feel there was "something else" going on.
That is a lot to take on board. A lot of new connections to resolve and sort out. Heck he may even have wondered if this was going to make his SO want him to try dressing up.
Maybe I'm just strange, but I can imagine his unease. He'd probably made an assumption that you were "zero threat" with his SO, and he found himself suddenly uncertain about that.
So yeah, he acted like a jerk. But - like his SO - you've got to give people time to understand things and accept them. It sounds like the guy already feels he's walking on eggshells with his SO. Could it be that he thinks/knows something more than 'work' went on between her and the previous CD?
Re-reading your post/replies again what I take from it again is that he sounds like he was feeding off your SOs unease and the fact that you and *his* SO seemed to be doing <something>. Sounds like he was uncomfortable enough that he couldn't see you as "another woman" swapping shoes. He saw a guy, with some kinky fetish thing he doesn't understand, exchanging clothing with his SO. It's just not something you expect a husband to understand straight off.
I know I've been pretty jealous when my gf has worn another guys tshirt or jacket. Shoes might seem completely different but you gotta admit there are a lot of variables that are unresolved for a straight, non-cd guy who maybe doesn't have a whole lot of interest/understanding in crossdressers?
