Significant Other:
I wonder this. Why is it so important to you to share this intimate detail of your other half's life?
If the tables were turned would you be able to appreciate his need to tell his drinking buddies intimate details of your life?
You REALLY need to do some serious self evaluation here or you are headed for disaster.
Tree:
There is a lot of hostility there, deserved or not is a question only you can answer. I dont think people here paint themselves as victims; quite the contrary, but we do have VALID concerns about intimater relationships we CARE about, including how to resolve this issue in that relationship.
Secondly, most of us have lived with this all our lives and suffered one hell of a lot of self imposed discrimination, guilt, shame and fear. Until you can recognize that you will continue to have difficulty because you wont be able to go ahead. We are only asking for some understanding and tolerance.
Sorry if I am a little harsh here but we are equally sick of hearing the "I am the victim" statements from the other halves. The GG's here who are successful make every effort to understand and help. In helping us they help themselves.
End of Rant.
Kimberley
