Secrets and Lies

[GG Vanya]

As I have stated on other threads, my sister (with whom I trusted my big secret) outted me to my parents about me being in the BDSM (D/s to be specific) lifestyle. She did this in a fit of revenge about something totally unrelated.

My Father refused to speak with me and sent word that he wanted no further contact with me until I had "that demon cast out of me". There was even talk of an "intervention". !! I was estranged from my parents for a very long time. I finally forced a confrontation with my Dad at which time I said as gently as possible:

Daddy, I have never asked, nor do I feel it is my business, what you and Mom do in the privacy of your bedroom. I do not ask you about intimate details of your relationship. Please afford me the same courtesy.

Since that time the topic has not been raised again, even though every time my Dad sees me, there is a gold chain around my neck that he very well knows is not "just a necklace" that I've worn 24/7 for 8 years.

My sister has never apologized nor do I need/want her apology. Her betrayal was simply one more attempt to control someone else because her own life is so out of control.

My point is this:

My husband is a crossdresser. I knew before making an emotional investment. I will forever be thankful for his gut wrenching honesty with me.

Trudi chose to tell her parents when her sister found out and was going to out her to her parents. She stole her sister's thunder. Both Trudi's parents took the news well. I've shopped for Trudi while out and about with my Mother In Law. MIL has given Trudi wonderful gowns, some of which we have pictures of Trudi wearing.

Trudi has also chosen to share who she is with a very select number of our friends.

On every occasion it was Trudi's choice to inform others. I will viciously protect her right to privacy and would never, under any circumstance, betray her confidence and trust in me.

What we do within the confines of our marriage is simply NO one else's business as we are breaking no laws, and causing no harm.

I'm probably different from many GG's in that I do not form strong relationships with other GG's R/T. I've never been one to need another GG with whom to share all my worries and dark secrets. The above is a good example of what happened when, in a moment of weakness, I did that. My husband is my confidante and I know I can trust him with my very life, let alone my confessions.

Yes, I do worry about the tongue waggers if word about Trudi gets out. I am *not*, however, worried for my own sake. I'm a staunch member of the Red Hat Society~I simply don't give a putrid rodent's patootie what others think of me anymore~it's extremely liberating. I worry that my husband's employees would take a red necked, uneducated position about it, resulting in a decreased level of respect for him with them. I also worry that it would compromise my husband's relationship with my Dad.

My Dad has the utmost respect for the man I married. It is not deceitful to not tell him about Trudi. There simply is no need for him to know. I *am* married to an extremely honorable man with a deep sense of integrity. My Dad also knows my husband to be a very sensitive and caring man, and admires the fact that he is so attentive to me. The fact that my husband sometimes wears the clothes of the female gender simply has no relevance.