It's time to say goodbye.....

[Along4TheRide GG]

I'm a GG and completely understand both sides.

Sometimes the HIT SHITTETH THE FAN! When that happens you just need to drop any outside factors and hit the basics hard.

Once you get back to that common denominator you can reevaluate everything else.

My SO loses his job - we tighten the budget and cut out the "frills". My SO goes on a diet - I support it and carefully shop and cook. I notice my girls' grades are slipping - I don't bring my work home for a while.

Sometimes you just need to get your footing back. It sounds like everybody is making a sacrifice "for the good of the whole".

Good luck to both of you!

-Marriage is not two people looking at each other, but standing side by side looking in the same direction.....

[kittypw GG]

No truer words were spoken. If we all made this the golden rule of our relationships then there would not be so many issues.

Sometimes the fan must be put on high to blow out the PINK FOG so that one can see clearly. We should all look for the lowest common denominator and HIT THE BASICS HARD. Our relationships would suffer less in the long run. Kitty

I'm a GG and completely understand both sides.

Sometimes the HIT SHITTETH THE FAN! When that happens you just need to drop any outside factors and hit the basics hard.

Once you get back to that common denominator you can reevaluate everything else.

My SO loses his job - we tighten the budget and cut out the "frills". My SO goes on a diet - I support it and carefully shop and cook. I notice my girls' grades are slipping - I don't bring my work home for a while.

Sometimes you just need to get your footing back. It sounds like everybody is making a sacrifice "for the good of the whole".

Good luck to both of you!

-Marriage is not two people looking at each other, but standing side by side looking in the same direction.....

[Wendy me]

you know i have been reading this along ....as well as other threads were one might be drawn into voicing their opinion to support the thread starter ..... it's what we do ..... now in comes a view from the SO of the thread starter .... my views on this are simple they need to get together off line and talk this out more ...

all too often we are told or asked our opinion when we only get one side .... now ... looking at this how would some one ever get the right views with out all the info??? and two sides are always to every story we should get them both before being asked to respond.....

[Kerry Owens]

In a marriage it take two to work together when problems start cropping up. Without partnership the whole situation can fall apart and escalate to a mind numbing disaster, and being honest is a linchpin to trust.

[Laura Jane]

I suppose my comment is more general, not really aimed at Gina and Ashleigh.

I have a problem with the concept of giving up something thats relatively harmless and in the scheme of things unimportant to save your marraige or for the family. It simply sows the seeds of resentment, rather that solving the problem.

Putting it into context, there are some things that I can see would be wise, like giving up a dangerous job or one that keeps you away from your family to save your marraige.

Others, on the face of small things, like giving up going out with friends or stopping smoking etc at their request or simplyto please a dissaproving partner can put enormous strains on a marriage, even if the partner had never asked but only implied they wanted their partner to stop.

Unreasonable behaviour wrecks marriages, whether it an action or prohibition of something, your wife or husband should be your partner, not your warder or prisioner!

[Tamara Croft]

As some of you are ignoring the wifes post in this thread, I'm closing it, because it's totally UNFAIR that you are still judging her when she has done NOTHING wrong!!! You might want to try reading post #46 in this thread.