Oh but Louise who is controlling who? There are two sides to every coin. If a partner is ok with the cd'ing but doesn't want a steady diet of it, and gives the ok for them to dress when they are home alone whenever they feel like it and if the CD still resents the SO for their lack of participation then, isn't the CD being unreasonable and somewhat controlling himself? I guess that if my hubby came up to me and explained that it would mean a lot for me to participate on any given night I would probably oblige him. But if he just quitely resents me for not participating then his anguish is of his own doing. I see this very thing happening a lot. Instead of really talking to their partners, the CD quietly resents his situation accuses their partner of being unaccepting and isolates himself. The SO feels resentful, about being shut out of her hubby's life and crossdressing easily gets blamed there by causing them to not want to participate. In my own head I guess I keep comming back to communication, and mutual respect for eachother.
Thanks for the appology by the way, I don't hold grudges and everyone is entitled to their own opinion it is hard to tell sometimes what people intend to convey when you don't have the benifit of body language and a real time conversation.Kitty