Why are we hetero CDs always mistaken for gays, bis or transexuals?

[MarinaTwelve200]

Pure ignorance---I remembered in school being told by classmates that a "Gay" or "Homo" is "a guy who thinks hes a girl"---"or wants to be a girl"

of corse a GAY and a Crossdresser were the SAME thing.

Many people grow up NEVER checking out their sexual info from a reputable source---like a BOOK.

By adulthood, Most people know that gays are attracted to other men and have sex with them, but THAt is "something else they ALSO do" rather than the primary determinant (which it is). As far as they are concerned a Gay is basically the same thing they learned in grade school.

You can tell by their questions what they really think. To them gays , crossdressers and transexuals are the same thing.

Personally, I cant see how a person could cultivate his own ignorance and never check it out. Even as a kid, when I had a sexual question, I always went to the library or encyclopedia and checked it out (It saved me a lot of needless concern)---I never trusted my equally ignorant classmates for info. There are adults that never have done this---appaling! but sadly true.

[Toyah]

I think you only have to look at some of the posts here that state you must like men because you are a CD to see how ingrained the Gay Bi prejudice about us is and then hey you just throw that one in I may be Bi.
I really dont see any difference between Bi or Gay both want men I dont. Its quite simple to be a hetro guy and be a CD being Bi is a cop out if you are Gay fine admit it and get on with your life

[MsJanessa]

I think you only have to look at some of the posts here that state you must like men because you are a CD to see how ingrained the Gay Bi prejudice about us is and then hey you just throw that one in I may be Bi.
I really dont see any difference between Bi or Gay both want men I dont. Its quite simple to be a hetro guy and be a CD being Bi is a cop out if you are Gay fine admit it and get on with your life

There are people who don't like to limit their sexual activities to just one gender Toyah---no "cop out" We just like to go both ways---after all why not? Are you really suggesting that a person has to either like men or women but can't like both?

[O2B Barbara]

I am amazed at the amount of thought and information that has been presented here. Thanks to all for the education! There are so few people that I have met that really have thought about this subject, from any aspect of it and so only express the "canned" opinion of the majority of non-thinkers. I take every opportunity to promote acceptance by saying things like I wear a dress on occcasion or I wear my wifes underwear. Usually gets a laugh but does open doors to thought. Even Tom Hanks mentioned he was wearing his dates panties in the movie Dragnet, got a laugh, but who knows what Tom Hanks wears in private? Actor Rober Vaughn (Man From U.N.C.L.E. televsion show) (shows my age!) was the the male stereotype in all ways yet in many movies he is shown in a corset and lots of lace. What is his secret? Was he trying to show that this is an acceptable behavior?

I ramble, sorry. Someday things will change and we can be as we wish.

[stacie]

Some of us here are TS, But most people have other thoughts of what we are because of the lack of educating the public on being transgender. Most CD's never leave the safty of their house, Because of the fears of getting caught. Untill the public understands us we will always be put under catergories were not.

[marie354]

I think that they class so many as "gay" is that is something that they can understand. They can't understand any of the other aspects, it just confuses them, so they just think what they know.
It's sad, really, There aren't any two people alike in this world, and some just like to classify us in that general category to make it easier for them.
I wish that they would just get with the program and get up to date.