You could try what I did... I happened across meetup.com and found that they had a Chicago Crossdresser and Transgender group. I went out for the first time in years to one of their monthly events and met some really nice people. (Okay, I was scared to death at first, but now I'm hooked!) It looks like Houston has a group started too, so you may want to look into it if you want to meet people in person.
Hi Hon---I sympathize with your frustation on getting to actually meet other T-Girls---even using the thread mentioned by Oooh Tammi I have found that relatively few girls who post here and on that thread actually have the nerve to go out the door dressed and actually meet another T-Girl---I do meet them all the time when I'm dressed and enjoy myself immensely but there are many cds here and elsewhere who might fantasize about going out dressed and meeting people but don't have the nerve to do it. Unfortunatly oftentimes these girls do an unspeakably rude thing and make dates and then just don't show up for them----I suspect those wannebes and no shows will have a special place in the afterlife where they have to sit close to the fire--lol---anyway go to local gay and T bars--keep trying here and elsewhere and you will eventually meet some of Us good luckOriginally Posted by oohTammi
Adittionally there are two other forums on this site which you may wish to read from time to time. There's "Meeting Place" where gurls (or boyz) post threads saying something like "hi, looking for girlfriends to hang out with in TX" or some such. You may even wish to go back several pages of threads in that forum to find an older thread specific to your area. There is also the "Upcoming CD Events" forum which has info on girls nights out, conventions and the like. You're not the only one here looking for CD company, y'know. You just need to be involved, be patient, and know where to look. Good luck to ya. xoxo Tammi
EDIT: I just checked the Meeting Place, and here's a current thread with over 100 replies over the past month! http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ad.php?t=29117
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Some of my best friends are those who I have met in this forum, a couple of whom I have met in person, and many more who I chat with regularly and intimately, meaning that we are open and honest with one another and trust each other without hesitation.
When you see a member on the forum who you feel you might like to get to know, just send them a private message and say hi or say how much you enjoy what they have to say. Nine times out of ten, they will respond and then you're on your way to a possible friendship.
“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”
― Marilyn Monroe
You have struck on something that is so true, yet very sad...This day and time dictates that we all for the sake of safety establish a comfort zone...
I have on many occasions made the statement that there are no "real" friends. My father had guys he hung out with, had a beer or two, hunted and fished. This day and time it is all a matter of life and the society we now live in...We are ever consumed by our personal lives and families, with little or no time for others, just a fact of life...That along with the nature of the beast, being suspicious keeps us at arms length...
Now lets add the fact we choose to live all or a great portion of our lives mimicking a woman does tend to add a degree of difficulty as to whom and how we choose our friends...
I too would like to meet others who share a common interest in my life style, but for now, I'll enjoy being in contact with them here...
Thanks to you all that taken your time to answer, i guess my coment was kind of unfair, i guess i need to put a little more effort to make friends, and i will follow your advice, thanks again.
Love Ericka
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I guess we are all the the same boat,I'll too would to meet and be friends with other cders and maybe some day, i will until then i just go out by myself and enjoy my second life.
janielatb: I'm in love with the person inside me.
Some of us have wives that WON'T let us meet other CDs.
Personally, would I like to meet you, Erika, YES!!!, but my
situation won't allow it.
I presume other Gurls are in the same position.
You've received good advice - "Keep Posting" -
and you will meet friends.
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It is because we are all so self centered and consumed with our own problems..... Did I say that? Naw, just kidding.
Why is everything about you? Oooops, there I go again. Uh, just kidding. Really....
Welcome. Stay a while and have some fun. I am 250 miles from Houston. Send me a PM if you would like.
I don't know if it's so much the day & time as the personality. Perhaps its a bit of both. Not so long ago, one was forced to interact with the local community more than today. Life was more local focused than global focused.. though I'm not entirely sure that was for the better. One didnt hear or see what happened in another country, interact with other like-minded sorts from all over the world, etc. These days, the opportunity is there.
Personality... some are just more adept at it than others. Me, I'm not so adept, "in real life" or otherwise (as if what part of this aint real?). I typically have few friends, but they've typically been close ones. Given that though, the only living, breathing in front of me, person I ever confessed my CDing to was my ex-wife, and even then she didn't get the entire story (never told her how I felt about it really... just about it, which is a somewhat significant difference). I have, somewhat cliched, circles of trust in which anyone I meet falls into... rings of walls around me, worm your honor, and thats protection for me.
I've had a handfull of close friends in my lifetime and perhaps one shines above the rest. Genuine friends are rare I think and we're lucky to have and find them. Regardless, relationships (of any kind) take time and effort to cultivate. Sometimes they fruit and sometimes they wither.
You all been such a good help, thank you soo much for your input, in all honesty, i only had a couple of real friends in my lifetime, don't know why, lot of girfriends but that was just for show, i can't believe how good it feels some little advice would do, thank you all.
Love Ericka
She's back
Ericka now don't you feel just a bit silly we're one big happy family here spread all over the world and like any family we have our spats our outspoken oppinions our constructive critisism of other members but in all we do have fun being ourselves. I couldn't ask for a better place to be than right here at crossdressers.com where one can be the person they wnt to be or admire people like us. Welcome to the forum hun if ya want to talk just pm me and i'll be your friend even if it's long distance from PA to TX.
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Hugs and kisses Brenda
hi Erika, i'm like you..hard to make friends on the net. it is great though..super really. years ago i went to Germany to visit some relatives in the military. i thought it was a really nice place. we went off base and visited Frankfurt, Koblenz, and Munich. really cool. i guess it's like the others said, be patient, be a friend...etc. this is a good site. i wish i could visit more often but too busy most of the time.
Love,
Tammy
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