Believable theories on Cross-dressing

[OldMom]

This is all so interesting. I am currently trying to understand it and I am still pursuing acceptance. I have a slightly different situation. When I conceived I had to use high technology including a procedure called "ICSI" whereby they inject the sperm into the egg and then put the embryo into the uterus. Anyway, studies have shown that this procedure does in fact carry with it a higher than average result of gender identification problems. For a long time I "blamed" myself for my son's issues because of these methods. It's only now occuring to me that I could possible "thank" these methods for giving me such an amazing gift. I have been so worried about the pain he might experience because of our society and lack of tolerance that I think I'm missing out on the good stuff. You are helping me to see that and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. OldMom

[pwincessbigbootyooty]

theres no truly nonbias theories let alone conclusive studies on anything
in the brain wiring dept

let alone this
they should just let it be

[Satrana]

I have been so worried about the pain he might experience because of our society and lack of tolerance that I think I'm missing out on the good stuff. You are helping me to see that and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. OldMom

Glad that you have seen the light. The whole crossdressing issue is driven by fear. If you can get past that, you begin to wonder what all the fuss is about.
Crossdressing is not wrong, evil, perverted or unethical, it is simply a different state of being from the accepted social norms that exist at this moment in time. Ultimately it is no different from being born left handed in a world dominated by right handers. A few minor adjustments will allow you to live a happy and complete life. It is your choice to see the cup either half empty or half full.

[Chantelle CD]

Has it been scientifically proven, that CD TS TG or homosexual behavior is linked our gene make up or hormone levels? that they can actually effect our emotions and feelings, I'm not sure of this, maybe hormone levels can make one feel more femme, but thinking that there more to do with the body, and how it functions and grows.

I think that maybe because they can not prove where it comes from, maybe just maybe it does come from the place that requires faith to witness. I believe, that before we are born, we choose our parents, maybe even before our parents were born, that we have chosen our life lessons to go threw as well, our future mates, <reason they are called "soul mates" and why there is a belief called love at first sight> even our work careers. This also explains dajavoo, when you experience you have done this before, and hadn't. Wouldn't that just rip it!!!! there are no answers to why we x-dress, without faith, like is there a god!!! DAMN EH !!!

Wouldn't that make the biggest life lesson, accepting self for being a cross dresser, if u can do that completely, thats some big lesson learned, and WHOOOA some might big soul evolution going on

[Annemarie]

I personally go for the absent father theory,
already 2 threads, here's one :
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ghlight=father

[OldMom]

I am the primary care taker for my son. I am divorced and my current husband is emotionally distant a lot of time time. Thinking back, Danster's dressing began before I married though, right around the time of the divorce but that could also be coincidence. Gosh that's a hard one. I hope this theory is disproven. I don't like it. Feels like somehow I have more control than I really think I do. Mom

[Annemarie]

Here's the second thread on the same theme :
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ghlight=father

[Brenda_fish]

For me, knowing WHY won't make a big difference in my dressing but I am very curious nonetheless.

Scientifically, there is a lot we do know about gender issues and there are things we do not know. It is well known that many characteristics related to sex arise in response to spikes of hormone levels during particular windows of time during development. Relative levels of feminization or masculinization can result from genes (that encode hormone synthesizing enzymes and hormone receptors), or simply developmental accidents. It is reasonable to hypothesize that issues of sexual orientation, or even the tendency to CD, may also be affected by such factors. Enviromental (i.e. social) factors probably also play a role. Right now there is not a lot of compelling evidence to to explain these particular attributes one way or another.

However, we should not assume that science CANNOT explain these things, rather that the explanation is not YET known. It may never be known, but I don't think that justifies abandoning science altogether. I'll continue to be curious.

That's just me,
Love,
Brenda

[Robin Leigh]

I lost my father when I was very young, too young to really remember him. My mother remarried within a few years, but my step-father often worked night shift. So I fit into the "absent father" category. And I had 3 sisters & no brothers, so I was often surrounded by females at home.

However, I don't believe that these things caused my TG tendencies. I believe that it's a combination of genes & the hormone interaction in the womb that creates the TG potential. The environment I grew up in certainly provided influences that shaped my gender identity, triggered my TG development and affected the form of my TG feelings & activities. But environmental influences cannot affect the core gender identity.

The main evidence for this view comes from the intersex community. For several decades, intersex births in the Western world were treated as a medical emergency, as if the baby had a life-threatening condition. Specialists would be rushed in, and often babies were subjected to immediate genital alteration. They could be put on a course of hormones for life, and possibly subjected to further surgical procedures. They would rarely be told that they were born intersex.

The most modern approach to intersex births is to wait & see, using surgery &/or hormones when and as necessary to help the individual develop in the direction they want to go. Unfortunately, in many places the old attitudes & methods still prevail.

Sometimes, a little surgery is all that's required to make ambiguous genitalia less ambiguous. But since a functional penis is a lot harder to construct than a vagina, in many cases these babies are made into girls. Sometimes this works, but there have been many cases where it has been a dismal failure. Even with hormonal assistance, you can't force a person into a gender which doesn't match their core gender identity.

There have also been cases of non-intersex & non-TG boys being turned into girls after bad penis accidents. The most famous case is Brenda/David Reimer, who I gave links about earlier in this thread. His parents tried their best to treat Brenda like a girl, but it never really worked. At his core he was always a boy. Even though he had no memory of having a boy's body, he never felt comfortable as a girl, and clearly had gender identification issues throughout childhood.

So environment can't make someone TG who wasn't born with the potential, or vice versa, but it will certainly affect how a TG person feels about gender. If we grow up in a supportive environment, then surely we will come to accept ourselves a lot faster than if we grow up in fear, shame & guilt.



Robin

[tiffianycd]

I heard these theories before and I think they dont work like what Ruth said about them. I am a man who dresses as a woman. I have an Identy issues or I am plan crazy I do not know anymore. I think in my head I am a woman and I feel like one but when I look at myself I am a man.
My mother told me along time a go she wish I was a girl and not a boy and she wished me dead. sad but true. some may say I dress to gain my mothers acceptance but I dressed long before then. I had gone to counsling and the only thing I was told is to go through with the uerges till they pass or fight them. I right now. I had already doing both.
tiffianycd