View Poll Results: How accepting is (was) your wife/SO?

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  • Not disclosed, don't intend to

    26 4.31%
  • Haven't come out, but hope to

    23 3.81%
  • Unaccepting SO

    74 12.27%
  • Tolerates it... mostly don't ask, don't tell

    126 20.90%
  • Generally accepting, some days better than others

    126 20.90%
  • Accepting and supportive, God bless her (him)

    228 37.81%
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Thread: POLL: How Accepting is Your Wife/SO ?

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    POLL: How Accepting is Your Wife/SO ?

    We hear anecdotal evidence of many accepting wives/SO's, many who are not accepting, and many CD's who haven't come out to their partners (I've been in all 3 categories in the last year, in reverse order ). It's been a while since we've had a poll on this topic (I think), so here goes...

    For those CD's who are, or have been, in a committed relationship, how would you categorize your wife/SO's posture towards your CDing?

    * Never disclosed, don't intend to

    * Haven't come out, but hope to

    * Unaccepting wife/SO

    * Tolerates it... mostly don't ask, don't tell

    * Generally accepting, some days better than others, or

    * Accepting and supportive, God Bless her (him)



    Now, we'll get better results if every member reading this answers the poll (even if you don't feel like posting a response otherwise). Sorry if there's a common/obvious poll option which I missed.

    Thanx y'all for your participation!!

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    Gave up trying to explain to my wife why i like crossdressing she just knows its something i have to do and has given me free reign to do whatever i want as long as i am a bit more discreet around the children, says that if i was to die before her she would look for another tv she is a diamond.

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    Yeah.. Great Poll!
    It is kinda interesting to me.. I am accepted, but She does not seem to accept me... = Sheknows, But has yet to actually accept me. And Yet She Will.. I Know..

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    going with Unaccepting wife/SO.... and we have made some small steps .... but dose not look good for her coming around on this .... who knows ????.....

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    I wish I'd never been found out, so one down for unaccepting even though she'd say otherwise..."well I haven't divorced you YET"

    Tolerance goes as far as still living with me, she says she loves me but she won't make love to me anymore so it's hardly acceptance

    That's whats annoying about women, they fall in love with you because you don't act like a man and you're 'different'. Then they can't cope when they find out you don't just want to get in there knickers you want to wear them too

    And they always want to know why, like there really is answer. I don't know why it just feels good, but why I wouldn't have a clue

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    As I have said before, Jean has known since the day I proposed. She has supported me since. We both are members of Tri-Ess.

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    how accepting?

    wife no 1 : no way jose! blew a fuse every time i did it!
    wife no 2 : very accepting doesn't begin to describe it. she lets me dress whenever i want, and we shop together all the time!

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    I am lucky to have a gal who has always supported me since we started dating in the 70's. Married almost 30 years now and it is generally getting better every year. She has only actively participated the last 3 years but I didn't dress much before then. Now we go on shopping trips and vacations as two girlfriends and she has helped my color coordination and fashion sense immersurably. We do have some small boundary issues and priorities, as with any other part of our lives together, but I couldn't have asked for a better life partner. I always contended that we were fated to be together as we had several close calls at meeting in our younger lives. Now with all that has happened the last few years I know that she was meant for me!

    (Blessed and I know it!)
    Sally

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    I hope never come out to her - too many probable issues
    Really enjoying this!!!

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    Smile

    My Honey-pie found out about Beth 1 month afetr we married (30 yrs. ago). She was tolerant back then and I learned my boundaries the hard way, but never any major problems. Now she helps with my wig if I need help and I dress at will as long as I remain indoors.
    I am very lucky to be with her! :D

    Beth
    Oh, how I wish....

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    As I have posted many times before, GlitterGG has known about Kandis since essentially the day we met 12 years ago. She has always been supportive, and helpful, as well as understanding of me. I know I am truly a lucky gurl to have so wonderful a wife. She sees Kandis as just another facet of K*** and that it is just one more part of the whole person she loves.

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    I checked the generally accepting choice even tho my wife can be very supportive, that sort of comes and goes. Either way I know Im really lucky to be in the group of us thats not hiding this secret from their SO

    Cindy

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    She knows and she ordered a full purge and wants me to get counciling for my illness this week.
    Staying in the closet isn't so bad as long as you know why your in there.

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    My wife has always been supportive and after all the years we've been together it's just a normal part of life. Just yesterday we were passing a shop that was having a summer clearance sale and she asked if I neded any more tops, how can anyone turn down an offer like that....:D
    You don't have to have been born female to enjoy being a girl

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    Tolerates it... mostly don't ask, don't tell

    She found out over a year ago but has not said a word since and neither have I.

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    More than supportive... a fan. That's not to say we don't have boundaries... but they are mutually agreeable. HT is the best!
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    Generally Accepting.

    Prior to finding this forum I guess I was also Generally Accepting of my wife's acceptance!

    I am now very grateful for it, realising, at least in some respects, what GGs concerns and fears are.

    We now talk about it, before it was just something I did. We even joke about it!

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    unaccepting wife\so I told her 5 years ago. she could never get used to the idea[i stopped dressing but got stressed very easily] we split up last year!

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    Mrs. Missy is unbelievably accepting. And I am unbelievably lucky to have her as a life mate.

    We had the expected bumpy start for a few months but now she has a lot of fun with it and as you all may have read in our posts last winter, took me out several times. What a major rush that was!!!

    She is already talking about going out again this winter and how to make it happen. Most plans center around what to wear and how not to get read.

    She knows it makes me more relaxed and for that reason frequently suggests that I change into Missy Anne for a while.

    I love her very much!

    And I sincerely wish (as does she) that all of us had a wife or SO who was even half that accepting.

    Missy Anne

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    more than accepting

    my so loves my dressing and wishes I could be more free to go out as her girlfriend. once she became comfortable with her own feelings of being attracted to me while dressed, she really enjoys, the sexier the better. She's in the process of getting feminine apparil that allows for us to enjoy a girls day out.

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    Wow, hurray for the nearly 70% in the top two categories!

    As for me, I'm extremely lucky to have a very understanding, accepting, supportive wife. In fact, I need to remind myself more often how lucky I am.

    Christine

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    my Girlfriend has known since we met and gets really turned on when i dress. She is so surportive and understands why i have to do it. She is the one who go me out in public but i must admit it was at night, but what a rush that was.....


    I love her to bits

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    Wife doesn't know...not so sure I want to tell her

    I checked the Doesn't know but would like to tell her someday option.

    I am not 100% sure that it will ever happen. While I can definitely see a ton of benefits IF she accepts it, I can also see it ruining our marriage and deeply hurting her if she doesn't. I am not sure it is worth the risk for the benefits I would receive. Some will say she deserves to know, but I am not sure I want to hurt her like that...she doesn't deserve THAT.

    Time will tell...for now, I am just happy to be Morgan where possible, and suffer in my scratchy itchy man clothes the rest of the time

    Morgan

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    You missed an option....

    .... I think she'd be OK with the dressing, but not how I feel about it...:2c:

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    like SatinDoll00

    Have not told her and will never,She is the love of my life very afraid that it would hurt her,so will stay hidding forever

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