most of the time im a straight male, but at random times i get the urge to dress up as ****ty as possible and have sex with black men. and its only that, black men. but i dont understand why. when i have a girlfriend it feels great, but then out of no where i get random urges.
Last edited by Sandra; 04-03-2012 at 01:33 PM. Reason: A bit tmi
I'd say you don't have any imagination as to what goes on here normally. We are not into anywhere near what you are thinking - probably should take it somewhere else!!!
Good answer right there!Originally Posted by Scarlet Rose
OK....stand back....I'll deal with this.
Random sexual fantasy outside your normal behaviour is normal. That's why they are fantasies. Dressing as a tart and being serviced by big black men is either a rather exaggerated submissive fantasy, or you're having a laugh. However, even then, I doubt you are alone.
I would suggest though, that for your own benefit you maybe read a few of the posts here and get a feel for the tone of the place so you don't accidentally offend without meaning to.
The only thing I can add is since it's your first post you started out with a BANG!
P.S. any reason for having thick before your name?
sorry if i seemed blunt but its just how i feel. im definetly not having a laugh.
Well many women have that same fantasy I've heard.
Maybe when you dress as a chick this thought turns you on. Up to you decide to follow through or not..
Not my fantasy.
Maybe the reason you get this is - during the 90's, it was a cliche fantasy in porn that the husband would go away and here comes the black stallion to take care of the woman. Maybe you grew up with that fantasy.
I think a lot of our sexual fantasies and tastes have to do with things we saw when growing up.
Last edited by Nicole Erin; 04-03-2012 at 02:48 PM.
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more likely a double forbidden pleasure. Two things that in your world (or maybe even three if you break it down more) that you believe are not as things are supposed to be. Just be careful and safe no matter what you do
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I am not going to quote all that Silk, but I do agree with what you say.
ps this forum is a fun place, you just have to know where to look lol
I think the stereotype is that African Americans are dominant, in-charge, alpha type men so I can see submissive men and women fantasizing about them.
You could argue till the cows come home about what it means but it's fine as long as it floats your boat, your boat consents, and your SO either doesn't exist or is okay with it.
There have been a few sex related threads here, I think they're fine as long as you keep them at least a little clean and don't head into TMI territory.
Like, you can say what floats your boat, but not what you put in it's tailpipe.
I wasn't sure if we had a troll at first to be honest. I mean that's some first post!!
She sounds sincere though.
My question would be, have you acted upon these urges, or is this simply a fantasy?
There have been plenty of posts about fantasizing being with a man without suggesting it be taken elsewhere. Add that the man is a well-hung black man and it becomes too unsavory for the forum? It should be OK to state what your fetish is, but as others have said, we don't need more information.
I'm curious. Does it excite you to dress up as you described without fantasizing about the partner, or being with the partner without dressing up, or are both necessary?
Last edited by NicoleScott; 04-03-2012 at 05:41 PM. Reason: correction
Neither can I. Silk, it seems that you're trying to create conflict where none exists.
That's true. Jumping into the deep end is definitely suspicious, but sometimes folks have "heavy" questions that they just can't wait to discuss. Her next few posts will tell us more about the situation!
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Silk,
Yeah, I'm a hater. Everybody knows it. Psh.
You want explicit sexual fantasies? Great. Go for it! Just not here. You can get that crap on countless other sites. I would much rather this be a site that is for the support and education of crossdressers/transgenders and their families and friends. Some wives of crossdressers come here for information about the bomb their spouse sometimes just dropped on them. Many spouses already think badly enough of us without seeing posts containing every imaginable fetish or sexual proclivity.
The moderators try to make sure that this site does not 'devolve' into one of 'those' sites. Again, you want it? It's out there. Please keep it that way.
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I don't know how explicit the OP was (although from all this now I'm curious) but we can't seriously hide the fact that for some there is a sexual component to their crossdressing.
There are plenty of non explicit threads here that would make a confused spouse positively terrified but for different reasons, IMO it's all about keeping it reasonably clean and not explicit.
Gay/Bi/Confused people drop by too and I think it's fair to keep an open mind and give honest opinions if the question isn't too explicit.
I'm no mod so I'm not sure how many first posts are TMI, but I can see confused people being worried about their sexuality especially if crossdressing is involved.
Damn you post button, stop tempting meeeeeee!
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She's 25 years old, that's prime horny years so I can see this not being a troll post but perhaps one that missed the forum rules in eagerness of finding an answer.
Last edited by whowhatwhen; 04-03-2012 at 06:19 PM.
Troll or not, it was a valid post imo. We all have fantasies and just because someone's fantasy might offend others and therefore should not be posted will close down a lot of the value of the site... people will lose confidence in what they are able to post - I have been there... stopped posting and then realsied I can't, as this is a family to me.
The ramifications of this post are ripples that will spill over. If it gets remotely off policy the Mods will close it. I have had had threads closed for far less...
Some of us fantasise about being taken by anyone... black, white.... even red, green or yellow! We just don't talk about it much in public fora (not forums - fora).
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This forum is a positive place in general, but the biggest problem is judgmentalism. "You should be ashamed..." "You're wrong to..." "Why don't you have the courage to..." I am really, really surprised to read those words here, when we should be all about support.
What you posted was a feeling, Dianna. How can that possibly be wrong? I just don't understand the put-downs. I'm disappointed.
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Most of us have joined this forum with posts like "My name is .... and I have doubts about" or " I am so happy to have found this forum" or so on.
But this OP's first post is about dressing ****ty and and having sex? This sure looks like some type of troll-like behavior. If the OP wanted to express their issues with sexual identity, cross dressing and bisexual desires, then I think that OK within this forum. There is a GM specific subsection where this discussion may be appropriate. But this strikes me as a little like watching a movie in a theater, yelling fire, and then expecting everyone in the theater to contribute their critique of the movie. Most everybody heads for the exits...
So my advice for you, Thicknatasha, is to take some time getting to know what this forum is and isn't, introduce yourself in the new members section, and then perhaps find a way to express your queries regarding obsessions. I think you will find that there is a wide diversity in the population of members here and probably some who can identify with you.
Hi there,no,you aren't the only one who thinks about black men like that...I do and wonder what it would be like but doubt I'll ever follow it through,my gf wouldn't appreciate it....but it's nice to fantasize all the same and noone can take that away from you....ever xoxo
i shoulda known that it was raunchy material! sorry.
but ill try to respond to what ppl said but its hard!
I have acted out my fantasies many times and sometimes it felt great. i never cheated, it was single when i did it. the thoughts came a lot more when i was single. but it only comes now when me and my gf are in a bad spot.
definitely not thicknatasha, ur not the only one. each one of us who cd have our own fantasies, but we might not want to become a reality, but they remain as the most exciting fantasy.
I have my own fantasies and while they are highly exciting, i dont think I will ever want it happen
Last edited by ReineD; 05-27-2012 at 01:42 PM. Reason: I missed this before. Way TMI.
Nup, none of the mentioned fantasies.
You need to decide whether acting on these fantasies is good for your own self esteem and health and good for any relationship you may be in now or in the future (given the increased risk of STD's associated with sexually promiscuous behaviour).
I try to keep a very open mind, What is right for others may not be right for me but I do tend to try to not judge others for their choices in life after all it is Their life to live. Is this topic wrong/bad/???, No because it has it's place here whether others agree or not and this fact has been proven time after time since I have been here.
Do I have common thoughts/behavior as the OP? absolutely NOT. This is one of those threads that I read and usually do not respond because it does not pertain to me in the very least.
With all of this said, I agree with most of the girls that have responded that it could/can still be a troll looking to stir things up as it was her/their first post. Usually when you join a community you ease into it, get a feel for the people and content being discussed and ask such a question a bit down the road. With all the admirers, stalkers, and other assorted sickos out there looking to get their rocks off, I fully understand this persons post being questionable at this point and time and the true intent of it being in doubt fantasy or not.
To the original OP, My answer is NO. I am a heterosexual closeted CD and the thought has never entered my mind. I enjoy being both sides of myself. when it comes to the sexual side I will always find a GG.
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Well, given that you've acted on this urge, then I think you need to do a couple of things. First, clarify what/who you are to yourself and your gf. Its commendable that you haven't followed through on while involved with your gf. Probably better keep it that way, casual sex with I presume strangers, remains a highly risky undertaking from a health perspective. It would be incredibly irresponsible and unfair to her if you cheated on her, and put her at risk.
Commenting on Thick's experiences, whether real or imagined, is WAY out of my path of expertise!
However, since the topic of "fantasies" has come up, I've had some experience with THAT! I can say with some conviction, once u actual live out a fantasy, u will NEVER THINK OF THAT FANTASY THE SAME WAY AGAIN! For better or worse!
So, think carefully about what u really want and of the many twists and turns that mite happen before u act out one of your fantasies!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
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