I've come out to quite a few women lately, and all of them were very supportive, enthusiastic even. Once I did tell them, some of them opened up to me in a whole new way! One common thread, though, was that I always the one to start the conversation.
This sounds obvious, but I never really realized how important that fact is. Throughout all my time quaking in fear, there were all these women right under my nose--women who'd love the idea of femming me up. But absolutely none of them even gave a hint about it until I brought it up.
When you think about it, it does seem to make a bit of sense. (Say) you're a woman who thought your man would look a lot sexier with a couple coats of bright red nail varnish. If you've got one of those "manly men", just how do you think he'd react if you told him that? Would you fear for your relationship? Would you fear for your physical safety?
I see a lot of girls here go into relationships assuming every woman would recoil in horror at the thought of dating a crossdresser. I think women are a lot more into crossdressing than we give them credit for. Maybe though, they're just as scared to talk about their love of crossdressers as we are to talk about our love of crossdressing.
This is just a theory that's been rattling around in my head lately. Things tend to rot up in there, so I thought I'd bring it out into fresh air. What do you think?