Originally Posted by
sometimes_miss
I can't give you a percentage; yet, I can tell you where it comes from, for men anyway. I'm basically straight; I don't see men as attractive or unattractive, I don't feel any sexual feelings towards men in any way, and beyond the basic concept of a guy being more attractive by being in better physical shape or height, I can't tell you why one is considered better looking than another, whereas I can with women.
The simplest test, I suppose, is the one I've suggested over and over for years; Sit on the boardwalk or beach, and when a really hot girl walks from one direction and a guy who you suppose is hot walks from the other direction, which way do you wind up looking (while in your mind, all that you can think about is 'oh my god I wish I could have that!!!!)? That will give you a very good idea of your innate sexual preference. Anything else comes from other psychological things going on.
For me, for decades I couldn't figure out why, when I'm sexually attracted to a woman, I have this feeling in the back of my mind to behave submissively to her sexually and have her take me as a man would take a woman, with me doing the 'girl things' and her doing the 'boy things'. It all comes from having been in a sexually intimate relationship as a child with an older male; I was essentially the girlfriend, he was my only source of affection. Withdraw the affection, and when I need it back, together with it comes the desire to have sex as a girl. Yet, I'm not turned on by the male body, find the scent rather nauseating, and the act itself, painful and unpleasant. So, simply having the desire to behave as a female sexually does not necessarily make someone a homosexual. Are there any homosexual feelings in me? Perhaps; but then, the mental connection of the past events to homosexual behavior may be what puts me off to it to such a degree.
Does that help?