Originally Posted by
NancyJ
I agree that no one else?s situation will mirror or model your own. I am in a DADT relationship and it is hard. My wife knows that I underdress as it is obvious that I have limited male underwear, she sees my panties in the laundry, and sees my bras in my underwear drawer. I sleep in women?s pajamas. However, if I was to start wearing overtly feminine outer clothing around the house without first discussing this with her and clearing the way (and she would object for sure), it would be like a slap in her face and an invitation for a stand-off (that I already know I would not win without losing too much). Somehow some women view crossdressing as wrong and/or a violation of their womanhood. Seemingly, no amount of discussion or pleading can change certain minds, certainly not my wife?s....I have tried. I advise against simply starting to wear more fem stuff at home. I predict that will backfire big-time on you. Good luck, Nancy