I do not post as much as I used to but I do read a great many of the threads. There is a particular theme that resonates a great deal and it all boils down to the fear of the unknown.
I know a few years back I looked at all of this with great fear, a fear that for the most part stopped me in my tracks. I had great admiration for those who had gone out in public, who were comfortable with shopping, who had active cross dressing social lives.
One day something shifted in me and I realized that the only thing that separated me from them was my fears, fears that I would be discovered and my life would be ruined, fears that I would run into conflict situations in public, fears that I would be ridiculed and laughed at, fears that...you get the idea.
Once I could see that the solution was simple...just do what I fear, go out there, be in public, learn how to CD, buy clothes in male and female mode, go to restaurants and malls dressed...whatever I would normally do I had to do dressed femme.
It is tough at first but the good news is that it gets easier each time and the better news is my life has not been ruined, I have not had any great conflicts, I have been treated with respect or just ignored. In fact I am pushing the limits further now by spending all of my non-work time dressed femme to see if I can cross the next bridge which is 100% full time cross dressing.
The message is, you will never get past your fears by avoiding what you fear. For the most part, what we fear never happens and the few things that come along for the most part we can easily deal with.
Huggs
Melissa
