Is it a good idea to come out to our children?
What are some of your thoughts both for and against?
If we are not out to our kids what do we teach them about transgender people?
For me personally my children 9 and 13 both boys are quite aware that Dad is different. They see me in my androgynous presentation all the time. My thirteen year old also has seen my clothes and such hanging in my closet. They see me wear makeup etc..
However they don't see me present as Daphne for several reasons. The first is I see my role for them as their father, they have a mother (a great one) and as I have no desire to be her girlfriend , I have no desire to be my sons mom. It just is not my role for them as I see it.
I also do not want to bring any pressure on them from people who do not understand my lifestyle nor do I want them in the position of defending me or being spokespeople for the Trans community. They do share our views and have no problems with LBGT people of any variety. This is something we raised our children to believe.
It is not that I don't think they could handle it it is just I think their lives are a little easier and less stressful without having to deal with Dad in a dress.
Having said all of that My thirteen year old was doing his homework as I was sewing a handbag the other day he said "wow dad this is really cool who is it for?" I said I think I am keeping this one for myself. "he smiled and said you are just a big girly girl!" I said does that bother you he said "not at all" Then he asked me to make the same bag for one of his friends saying "Liz would love this"
So there you go those are my thoughts I would like to know some of yours.