Thank you everyone for your kind and congratulatory words! That is exactly what I was talking about in my original post, you all are the best ^_^

Quote Originally Posted by DiannaRose View Post
Some of the others will also tell you this...even though she has accepted this for now, don't push her into accepting more. She has a lot to digest, and it sounds like she has a good digestive tract for it, but there is undoubtable some shock she's feeling right now as well. Let her set the pace, as much as possible.
I know I need to let her do the pacing and that's my plan but she is the kind of person to take in big bad news and then never talk about it again and I'm just afraid that if I don't casually bring it up or talk about it going forward its just going to become that "thing" that I do. I really want her to be involved. That's why I'm planning on introducing her to Kristin the weekend after this. Do you think that is too soon?

Quote Originally Posted by Di View Post
answer everything you can as honestly as you can and tell her no more secrets from here on out.If she wants other gg's to talk to tell her about thr FAB forum. Best Wishes to you both.
I did tell her that from now on I know there is no reason I have to keep any secrets from her. I think she liked that. I also mentioned that there was a Loved Ones and FAB forum that she could go to if she needed advice on how to deal.

I also asked her if she would care if I was on the boards while she was in the room as kind of easing her into the idea and she said it was ok, although I was on here last night while she was busy elsewhere and as soon as I heard her coming down the hall my hand hit that red X faster than you can blink your eye...silly programmed reflexes

Quote Originally Posted by FireflyGG View Post
One thing I would suggest is if you find that Kristin is becoming more of a romantic interest with your wife, instead of just a gal pal, you may want to try this. I told her that I already know the male side, and even though it's the same person, there are definitely some differences between the two. So I wanted an opportunity to date Melissa. First it will take place at home where we're both comfortable. Getting used to each other and enjoy some time together. but eventually I want to go off and leave her at home to get ready on her own and then pick her up and take her out on a real date. Just the two of us.
That's a really cool idea Firefly, I will keep it in mind, thanks