I WOULD SAY cybering is cheating… deviating from commitment with partner by sharing most intimate thoughts with someone else is cheating.
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If you are in a relationship and cyber with someone else, you are cheating. you may not have actual contact but you mind is on someone other than the one in your relationship. Get a life have sex with your wife.
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It's masturbation, plain and simple, and if that's cheating, almost everyone in the world cheats.
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There have been some good responses, but I think it comes down to what the parameters of the particular relationship are. I agree that most spouses in most situations would consider it cheating, but there are all sorts of marriages with all sorts of ways of living. Again, most spouses would think it's cheating, some spouses might want to be aware of it and give consent to consider it NOT cheating, and other spouses may have an agreement that anything not physical is OK.
I don't think ANY of us can come out and say, unequivocally, "It's cheating." You need to ask yourself, what are my spouse's expectations for my behavior, and is cybering consistent with those expectations? Unless you have a particularly open relationship or have discussed cybering specifically with your spouse, I think you already know the answer.
Oh hell Ze you took the words...er ahh Typing right out of my ....ahhh fingers? Ze is right on the money. You go Boooyyyy!!!!
I go to a 3D chat sight call Second Life. You make a avatar and walk or fly around a 3D world , you chat to other "people" in there avatars Oh Kind of like the Movie Avatar . I tell the newbies that you have to treat the other people like people. They think it's a game and treat people badly. When your no line and chatting with live people you are just as involved with them then if you were with the person in real life. Just because your typing or on a head set talking to them does not mean your not cheating.
Let me ask you this. Would you think your SOs is cheating if they were calling them on the phone and have never meet in real life.....does it? On the phone , a pen pal , Computer chat or e-mails. It's all the same . If you have a relationship with someone and you get involved with them where it's more then "JUST FRIENDS" then yes it's cheating. If you emotionally involved with a human being then your "bonding" with them.
So sorry hun yes it is very much so CHEATING 100%
I am putting a pic of my SL avatar so you can see it. In this avatar you can do what ever you want to in Real life and more. Chatting on the net is the same thing. just you don't see the other person. Now if you think you need to see the other person to call it cheating then on a sight like this you do, in a way.
Typing on a screen and having Virtual sex is still sex in a different form. I hope this long winded post has helped.
Oh ya your SO may not think it's Cheating so I would talk to her while she is not dressed and make sure she understands that YOU think it's cheating. She may honestly think that it's harmless. Still it's wrong but she may not think so. Most people don't think of the human factor. They think " I am chatting with a person but, it only on the computer so it ant real so whats the harm " . So just handle it right and you may find that she , once you explain your point of view then she might figure it out.
I hope I helped.
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"Cheating" is one of those terms defined within the context of the issue at hand with each side defining it in terms that support their current position.
How is that for a political response? lol
Ok, we have successfully proven it is a controversial issue.
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There is only one person that can answer that question "correctly". That person is your SO. Just ask them. If you are afraid to ask them, then you have your answer anyway...
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What if your wife thinks that your crossdressing (alone, for sexual pleasure) is cheating. Is it?
i have no idea if its cheating or not, but the thought of cybersex makes me feel quite 'icky'....the whole idea of me doing that makes me feel cheap, a little like a tuppeny wh@re
i guess the most rational answers i have read from here revolve around what is regarded as acceptable within the confines of their particular relationship.....if your partner is ok with it, and aware of it, then how can it be 'cheating', if your partner is unaware, well then i guess its doing something behind their back at best, cheating at worst..
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The answer is YES! it is cheating!
I think if you are questioning weather or not you are cheating then the answer is obvious, your cheating.
If you don't think I am right go ask your SO for permission and see what they say about it.
I agree with most everyone... unless you and your spouse/partner/whatever have a proper, well communicated understanding with the fences mapped out to allow it in certain circumstances, it is cheating, regardless of virtual or real space. The emotions get engaged in either case.
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So it all boils down to: The only way it's not cheating would be if you had clearly established boundaries in your relationship that are somewhat non-traditional, in which case you'd know already and not have to ask us.
The fact of your asking means that, in your case, it is.
It is cheating.....unless both parties in the relationship are in agreement about it and are happy for it to go on.
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Yes, it's cheating.
So what happens when the shoe is on the other foot my ex had heaps of male friends on msn I respected her privacy but what was she doing every day/night when she was chatting???
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Well, if it technically isn't cheating in the physical sense, it can (and often does) LEAD to cheating...How many online relationships start out as one thing and ultimately become something entirely different? Becoming intimate with a person at that level breeds a familiarity and closeness that DOES threaten a relationship...Happens all the time....So, it's certainly risky, if nothing else because it certainly CAN come between you and your partner, at least emotionally....
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I disagree-- this isn't sexual tension with a coworker, or flirting with a woman in a bar, cybering is explicit sexual chat normally accompanied or leading to self gratification. It isn't "sex" in the traditional physical sense, but it is sexual gratification with someone other than your spouse.
A spouse can be OK with cybering, just as he or she can be OK with the other spouse sleeping with people outside the marriage. But that has to be something specifically permitted within the relationship, either on a case-by-case basis where the spouse has direct knowledge of what's going on, or perhaps blanket approval to run around (I had a coworker who was quite proud of the fact that his wife had given him permission to mess around on business trips, as long as he was discreet and safe... problem was that he was indiscreet enough to let me and several other coworkers know about the arrangement).
Cybering is not my cup of tea, but it is essentially sexual activity, and should be considered cheating when it is done behind a spouse's back.
Why don't you ask your SO?
wheather you feel like yourself or someone else, if its something that you feel you need in your life either your SO will help to fill that need or if they are un willing maybe they will allow it.
The key is transparency, don't lie about why you want to or if you are, be up front and honest before you make the decision to engage.