I over the past 2 years have been going out fully dressed and have tried to pass with no luck. Until I went to my 20th high school reunion and the people there thought I was someone's wife or girl friend. So I think I can pass at like 50 % of the time. Do I care anymore if I pass........NO.
I have written a thread about this but it seem like It is still on everyone's mind so I will say what I think is the most important to me at least.
Since I don't pass , I have the philosophy that if you don't pass and people see you , and IF there experience with you is a good one , then they come away with the experience as better person and expand there acceptance of us and others like us more.
I have never been rude with anyone so I think that the people that have "Clocked" me and have talked to me have had a good experience and there for if they talk about me to others will say something like....
" I saw a nice lady , well It was a mas dressed as a lady and she was so nice and sweet......"
For those of you that are not out or whom are but worrie so much about being clocked I would say if you think about your outings as a way to educate the public then it will be more fun and who knows you might just go out JUST to talk to strangers EH!!! I know I do !!!
When it comes right down to it if we want people to except us we need to let them know were here and that's up to us girls that don't pass and don't really care if we do.
I took me about a year of going out dressed (when I could get out) to figger this all out , so I don't expect anyone to go at my pace , but one day we all have a great realization that we don't need to pass to be happy or to do a perfect job on makeup or what we wear , but just to be ourselves is more then enough to make us happy.
That is not to say I did't want to pass 100% , just that since I could never pass 100 % even with surgery I am happy with who I am and how I look. I think I make a pretty women and that's what matters. If I fined a girl friend to share my life I will also hope she think so to.
So is your CD life surrounded by your need to pass and does it make you mad if you can't . If so look at it from my point of view and you just might be a happier girl or guy after you do so. Hugs to all and above all "DON'T WORRIE BE HAPPY"!!!