Do you think pretty T-girls make men question their own sexuality?

[Michelle.M]

Do you think pretty T-girls make men question their own sexuality?

Your thoughts? I have no idea myself.

Marleena, this has been a rather interesting thread! Despite your later comments regretting what you've posted I kinda like seeing what people have to say.

When I read your first post I understood the implications you made regarding the difference between TS and CD, and although I am not offended by the use of the term "T-girl" (I use it all the time) we have to recognize that it isn't a standard term and definitely not one that has the same meanings to even everyone on this board (as we have now seen).

So, there seems to be some confusion and thus the answers reflect whether the person giving them is referring to a CD or TS "T-girl". My perspective is that of a pre-op TS.

Short answer, yes! And many men will quickly address that issue in one way or another. When I first began to date my boyfriend he quickly pointed out that he wasn't gay. I laughed out loud when I answered and told him "I certainly hope not! I'm heterosexual and I have no interest in gay men!"

I think one of the great obstacles to being accepted as a transgendered person is that some males do find thier own sexuality challenged. It seems that some men worry that they might be gay, and some men worry that they might really like being women. Certainly, it can be disconcerting for some men to feel a sexual attraction to a person, only to realize that the person is genetically male.

You've hit the nail on the head! Regrettably, men who are homophobic often express that in violence when they feel deceived. In fact, this is really the basis for much of that anti-trans bathroom legislation. The arguments always seem to center on the deception myth, that we're all out to ensnare unsuspecting men into doing horrible things that they'd never, ever dream of doing in their normal, decent, morally upright lives.

Yup, that's us. Bad, bad transwomen!

There has to be a lot of things in place to really "fool" a man. I also don't buy the Trans-panic thing so much as the Trans-OH-CRAP now they think I am gay panic. Note that doesn't mean that the violence isn't very real I just believe that usually it is the guy KNOWS what he is getting into then freaks afterward. (also part of that is the non-reveal by the TG... no matter how much you think you are female or how well you pass so to speak, you need to be honest before it gets to the point where you life could be in danger). And yes it would be dangerous that is why you have to take every precaution to protect yourself BEFORE it gets out of hand.

Exactly! But seriously, is there anyone here that is so dimwitted as to not be able to recognize when a man is flirting with her or finds her attractive? If you're pre-op, non-op or a CD you've got to do something -

- Discourage your suitor, leave the area or don't put yourself in that position in the first place, or

- if this is something you want then find a way to address the subject in a safe and non-threatening way

And above all, be careful! Always make sure that you know who you're talking to and try to understand how open minded they might be before you put yourself at risk.

I find the terminology confusing. Are you writing here about T(ransgendered)-girls? If it is the umbrella term, then you should just say CD's who pass to nearly everyone that sees them (or maybe not), and if you are talking about pre-,post-op trans-sexuals, then it would be better to say that (or she-males).

Busker, because you apologized to kellycan27 I'm going to spare you the drubbing that you so richly deserve. But seriously? 733 posts as of your last and you still talk like someone who gets all of your TG education from ******* porn sites. You've really got to start paying attention if you're going to hang around here.

And just so you know how bad this is, if you had called me a ******* to my face you'd find out very, very quickly just how offensive that term really is.

There is a big difference because a TS at some point will be looking for a male to have relations with as part of the natural progression since their ultimate goal is to BE a woman.

OMG, have you lost your mind? Do you really not know the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation? Are you really unaware that there are plenty of transwomen in all phases of transition who identify as lesbian?

With a TS who has had a vaginaplasty, there would be the proper equipment but the male may still feel that the TS is a man, having been born a genetic male

Really? So there's only one way in, hmm? Surely you do know that many heterosexual couples also engage in anal sex as a regular part of their sexual activities. Or is that news to you? So far, lack of "proper equipment" hasn't prevented me from having a fulfilling heterosexual sexual relationship.