Last things first... You put yourself through this because of your guilt. Simple truth is that you are ashamed of what you are, Jill. I don't mean to be mean honey, but be honest... if yuou were proud of being a CD, you wouldn't feel guilty. It might even be funny! Go easier on yourself, please?
Also, there was good news in your email, too! You have already crossed the bridge of bringing it up. Fortunate for you, you seem to have "come out" with someone that is at least understanding. It might make you feel better to at least explain what it is with you...
You are not a freak, honey. You are someone with great legs!!!
I have a very weird and somewhat scary Busted! story, so if you are weak of heart (like you won't read it after I said that!) you possibly should go to the next message.
My father was a very uncommunicative person who also was a physical abuser.. not sexually, but a beater.
I started dressing at a very early age (2 or 3?) and never stopped. When I got a little older (I was probably 10 or 12,) I would make breasts out of water baloons and dress in my sisters clothes. I had the most amazing places to hide the water baloons... under my bed, (alright...maybe that was not that creative) or in the water tank of the toilet. (Do you have any idea how cold that water is???!!! Go and check...Dare you!) I would wake up at two or three AM and go and play dressup. I don't know what woke me up, but like clockwork, I did. Dressing in my gender was a very calming experience and one night, I went back to bed and fell asleep in a tulle slip (that frilly material that makes little girl skirts stand out, like a poodle skirt.) I remember waking up some hours later to discover my father staring at me from the doorway. I don't know what happened next. Believe it or not, I went back to sleep. After I awoke, I remembered that it happened. We never talked about it. It never came up... but I knew that he knew.
That kind of thing, when you grow up, is good for at least 6 therapy sessions...
Cara