Originally Posted by
Beth-Lock
The question has come up about what we, as CD's, are looking for in posting our pictures, dressed, en femme. We of course when we go out dressed, are also seen, at least in some contexts, as looking for something. We are trying, with our appearance, to symbolize the feminine gender. And I emphasize as the relevant term, symbol. We are looking for reassurance that in some way, the symbolic femininity that we assume is relevant to our inner nature. Not necessarily anything more, it would seem to me.
But this is often taken as a sign of something we do not mean. There is a difference between a symbol and a sign. (The term sex symbol would appear to be a confusion of this difference, a or at least a running together of the two meanings.)
For some, the sign of feminine attire is a call to action, a hot button, and means we are looking for something, something perhaps sexual. A lot of cheap and trashy tv programs have created the expectation that cd'ing is a an advertisement for sex, and these programs, and even high class documentaries seem to imply that CD'ing is associated with prositution, or at least cruising.
Women, (GG's), on the other hand, have had many experiences growing up, which have warned them of what sort of a signal the appearance of feminine gender, the symbol, has meant to some men. They have become cautious about strange men, and ambiguous situations. They are not as trusting,
Does this mean we are naive in our apparently more trusting behaviour?