For the word 'always' to be true and not offensive all CDs would have to keep this a secret from their spouses! I DID NOT!Originally Posted by JodyCD
And I would think that being the victim of sexual assault resulting in decades-long mental health issues would also be something that a spouse would be best to know about. But people who are wracked with trauma guilt and shame are not so easilly able to confess such a thing.
So that many CDs are too scared to be honest is unsurprising and predictable and should be expected!
lets see, about 1 in 3 people, men and women both, cheat on their partners.
So then thats likely 1/3rd of GG SOs lying to their CDing husbands and vice versa.
Now thats about 1/3rd of all humans in relationships risking exposure to their spuses to STDs just for starters.
And even in anonynous surveys both men and women LIE on the number of people they have slept with in the past. The need for many to conform to socially approved expectations is just that strong!
And on top of that, what is the motivation for such an omission?
How is it purely selfish? Now thats not whether the effect and result is one of gain purely to the CDer but one of intent! To show that an act is truly selfish you must show that the intent is selfish!
Easilly some are. I expect at least 1/3rd of both CDs and GGs, by being cheaters (unless there is some trait in being a CD that leads to more or less cheating, that would be possible as they are all CDs they may have a set of comorbidity traits that might effect that, but for GGs who should otherwise be a fairly random crossection of the comunity to be less often cheaters would be astounding astonishing and astrnomically unlikely!) I think it's safe to say that 1/3rd are mostly selfish.
But to state that ALL CDs are selfish? Thats going to be a very impressive feat of argument to justify that.
