how to stop cd'ing

[ChastityInFemme]

That is a tough one, to say the least! I have wondered about getting injured, and who would care for me, or find my stuff. I have a friend, who got shot twice by a drugged out stranger, in 1984, and the med techs got to him two minutes before he would have died! I visit him about once every two monthsHe is paralyzed from the neck down, on a ventilatorI don;t know if he was a cd. What is c-6? I hear, that visualizing, meditating, prayer, certain music, helps, but, i am sure thinking about it never totally goes away. Replacement thinking helps. I can't totally understand how that must be, but, it can happen to anyone. One minute at a time.

funny thing was the day before my accident i took off my nail polish...but my legs and chest were shaved. i had always shaved my chest but obviously the shaved legs brought up some questions. C-6 is the level of function i have. i have about half the use of my arms, no other motor function besides that.

I don't know the answer either, Chastity. I wish that I could help you.
Hypnosis might help. It has helped people with other issues that they wanted to avoid. Since you're in the closet, you'd have to find a hypnotist whom you could trust and then tell that person quite a bit in order for the hypnotist to help you. That could be the toughest part.
I'll at least send you my positive thoughts for your welfare.

it woulld be hard, especially getting to the therapists office. my current transportation involves someone else driving me there.

I doubt there will be much help for you here, not that we wouldn't love to help you out. Most of us have pretty well come to the realization that there is no real "cure" for CD / TG issues... and I think that most of us have come to that realization the hard way - after years of self loathing, shame, guilt, some limited indulgence followed by purging. I think most of us have realized that if there were a cure - we would have signed up for it.

I would bet that there are things other than crossdressing you (and others in your situation) are no longer able to take part in that you (and others in your situation) feel strongly driven to experience / be a part of. Drives and desires that simply are not going to go away simply because you can no longer voluntarily control your body. I am thinking about simple things like walking around, feeding yourself, having sex. These are all real, normal, healthy desires that aren't within the realm of possibility for you right now - though I bet you still wish to, feel driven to, do all of them. And I would bet, any amount of money you care to wager, that you are not alone in that.

I would also bet - though I don't know - that there are resources available to the paraplegic community for dealing with this feeling (surely you are not the first one who has felt this way), and finding ways to either express it, or to deal with your normal, healthy, desires. I would bet money that the place to look for the answer to this question is in the paraplegic community. And you don't have to "out" yourself to get the answer either. You can be really butch about it if you have to... "I was watching that Star-Trek movie last night, you know - the one with Kim Cattrall in it. I just can't get her out of my mind man - I used to know how to take care of this sort of "problem" but now what the hell am I supposed to do???" Then just substitute nylons, heels, panties, and a cute skirt, for "Kim Cattrall" in the answer.

about losing desires to do things- i can still have sex (i know you're probably thinking how that would work, trust me...it just does) but the downside is i never get that relieving orgasm. spinal cord injuries cause retrovert ejaculations, which is were the man juice shoots down the wrong pipe and goes into my bladder. also, spinal cord injuries totally kill your libido. you simply don't have a desire to have sex I was progressing to the point where i wanted to look as best as i could pull off. i was starting to have the desire to go someplace, just drive somewhere to walk or something...just to venture beyond the walls of my house. i just want to dress up and try to pass the best i can. i'm glad i feel that way instead of how things used to.

my BIG issue is asking soeone to help me dress. for one i need help getting dressed...it's humiliating enough to get dressed in male clothing, let alone female clothing. i couldn't imagine having my home health aid dress me up, help me with make-up...or shave my legs, imagine how much trouble that would be. and it would be awkward for my nurses that come every 5 hours to cath me if i were dressed.... see why i want the urge to subside until i'm more independent? privacy is already a major issue for me, haha.

[SIZE=2]I guess I'm living my CD life through the exploits of the rest of you...[/SIZE]

[SIZE=2]On the other hand, Chastity, I know it would be hard at first, but why don't you come out and ask someone you trust to dress you in feminine clothes as a special treat? I don't know your circumstances (with relationships etc.) but you may know someone who loves you enough to indulge your fantasy, on the grounds of at least giving you some pleasure in your circumstances. I know that might sound a bit patronising, but it was not intended that way. I'd do it for a friend, but then I'm a CD myself, and then I'd want to join you![/SIZE]

i definitely know what you mean. i feel the same way.

i wish i could feel comfortable enough to ask someone for help. i'd ask my girlfriend but i think that she would throw it in my face everytime we have an argument...or tell someone else. i think she isn't the right person to tell.

Chastity as others have said, the desire to crossdress never goes away. There have been some good suggestions in this thread. Here's another one that might help a little...You must have heard of the Second Life virtual world...

i've tried SL but i just cant get into it. i cant get into those kind of games...even though my avatar was female.

Lucille,
'C-6' is the Sixth cervical Vertebra. If you feel the big lump at the base of your neck that sort of sticks out, it is the one right above that.
Being at that level means that Chastity can breathe, eat, talk and MAYBE even have some upper extremity motion, like being able to s-l-o-w-l-y type out messages on her computer. But as far as any type of strength goes, that would be limited. Her biceps probably work pretty well, but the triceps not so good. Also fine motor skills might be limited, such as putting on eyeliner or mascara.
definitely getting into lingerie by herself would be a problem.
I can only tell you that for me, using Dianetics as my method of 'self-discovery' seems to have removed the Obsessive/ compulsive portion of Cd'ing for me.

you are correct! i actually fractured my 5th vertebrae but have C-6 function. i cant move my fingers, or my lower wrist flexors, or triceps. i have full use of my upper wrist flexors, biceps and shoulders. with what movement i have i do have fine motor skills. i imagine putting eyeliner or mascara wouldn't be that difficult.

i'll look up Dianetics! thank you!




just a lil fyi, my life doesn't suck or anything. granted i have a major setback of being paralyzed but i do have a nice life. i have a girlfriend, awesome parents...i'll be going to college here soon. i always look at it this way, no matter how bad things are, it could always be worse.