I am by no means an expert when it comes to transsexuals. I consider myself to be dual gendered. But, from conversations that I've had with friends that are transsexuals that have transitioned, that are in various stages of transition, and that have no desire to transition, the one common thread that they all agree on is that they are not becoming women. They always have been women, they know, without a doubt that they are women. The language that they use is always that of always knowing that they were female. These women are generally happy after transitioning. This is language that is missing from your post.
The couple of people that I have spoken with that have transitioned and then have had second thoughts afterwards (when it's too late) do not use this language of always knowing that they are women. They "thought" they were women, they once were men that became women. THis is language that is present in your post.
I guess my concern is that before anybody does something that is not reversible, that they be absolutely sure that they are indeed a woman.
Grace,
Bobbi