Crossing dressing and dating guys?

[ReineD]

ReineD, don't feel so down in this.

You bring up several very good points, Sophie, thank you. And I do tend to assume that many of the CDs are married. Perhaps this is wrong.

I just want to tell everyone that my objection is not about CDs wanting to be with men. I have no bias against any sexual preference. What bothers me are the people who are in relationships and who use the fantasy as a way to remove the energy from their sexual relationship with their partners. I've been reading threads in this forum long enough to know that for most of you (according to what you post), nothing compares to the excitement you feel when you are dressed. Nothing. So it is not such a stretch to believe that the sexual fantasies you have when dressed are more gratifying to you than having real sex with your wives, and there are many posts that confirm this as well. So don't you think your wives feel this too?

But that's a general problem that everyone faces, not just crossdressers. And there's a lot written about that so I won't go into it.

That was my point earlier too. Yes, much of it has to do with the frequency and the strength of the fantasy. Occasional, passing fantasies are harmless whether someone CDs or not. But I sometimes wonder if more CDs than non-CDs' fantasies are much more powerful since the CDing is akin to an obsession (this is not a judgment, but the way I have of describing how important it is to most of you). I also get the impression that many CDs don't believe their fantasies 'count' while dressed since in this state, the wives are not being deprived of their male partners' attention.

No one knows, other than the CDer and his wife, how much the fantasies are getting in the way of their sexual relationship reaching its full potential.

But I can tell you this thread has upset more than one GG.