Two weeks ago, I came out to my SO with no negative reaction on her part. I thanked my lucky stars and kept quiet about it since that day. Today, I told her that I value her feelings immensely and would like to know how she feels about my CDing if she wanted to express herself. She said she'd had to just put the topic away for a couple of weeks since it was such big, new information. She said again that she's not comfortable with public dressing because of fears of what idiot guys might do. I said I would honor her concerns.
I said I really need to dress at home. She said she wants me to have everything I need in life, including this. She asked a lot of questions such as when I started feeling like this, and how far do I want to take it. She told me she had thought about buying me a piece of lingerie (wow!) but didn't. She wondered how it would make her feel to sit next to me in the evening on the couch while I'm dressed in lingerie or a feminine robe of some sort. She asked about makeup and I confirmed I definitely want to go there (with my own makeup of course). Then she just blew me away... She suggested we shop online together for big/tall girls clothes!! I couldn't believe my ears. I can't wait until this weekend to come so we can shop.
First off, my SO is the most loving, understanding, considerate person I've ever met. I wish everyone reading this post would have the same acceptance. It really saddens me to think how upset I would be without her acceptance, or worse, her rejection. I know many of you have to endure that loneliness in the CDing area of life. For my part, I didn't pester her right away after the initial "confession." On the other hand, I didn't want to wait too long before gently bringing it up again, so two weeks seemed about right. I also was quick to respect her boundaries and made it very clear that her feelings matter to me more than anything else.
I'm so utterly new at trying to protect a wonderful relationship while revealing my deepest need (crossdressing). Somehow, I'm bumbling along like the old Mr. Magoo cartoon and not only gaining acceptance but miraculously the participation from my SO. I have a hard time taking credit for this, but I hope maybe this story can be of help to other girls who are ready to reveal themselves to their most loved one.
Love,
Mandy