Stress has caused me to express my fetish side in order to break away and cope. I got quite an imagination.
My femme side is a natural side of me since age 8, that's always there no matter what.
It is me. There's not much thrill in this part.
Stress has caused me to express my fetish side in order to break away and cope. I got quite an imagination.
My femme side is a natural side of me since age 8, that's always there no matter what.
It is me. There's not much thrill in this part.
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Do you think it's fair to say that since it has been such an intrinsic part of what you are from such an early age, that you have not made the association in your mind with cross dressing and feeling vulnerable?Originally Posted by NathalieX66
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Dressing almost always relaxes me. When I feel sad or down, I'll change. It's not that the dressing itself makes the hurt go away from that particular instance or event. I do it because I know there's always that undercurrent of pain and sorrow that's always there when I look in the mirror and see....just another guy. Conforming my presentation closer to what I feel like on the inside cheers me up, makes me smile, and when you pile even more sadness onto that massive iceberg that's always there, even the smallest things can help.
Now some people may want to call this a form of escapism, which for some it is, but I remind these same people that anything can be used to escape reality and quite frankly I believe everybody needs to get away from it all from time to time. Reading, spring cleaning, exercise, long nature walks just to name a few and of course the obvious drugs and alcohol are all ways people cope with their issues. I don't agree with any coping mechanisms that can cause harm to your body (aka the last 2 items on my list) but everybody knows what helps them feel better and if it helps you then by all means go for it. It's perfectly okay to face your issues head on with a little help....actually I would recommend it.
"Dance as though no one is watching you. Love as though you have never been hurt before. Sing as though no one can hear you. Live as though heaven is on earth"
When I could get into it I use to wear my black basque.panties and stockings to the funeral under my suit. I felt it afforded respect more respect dressed mainly in black (although it couldn't be seen when the jacket was buttoned.
Im just going to echo what a few of you have said
"In times of stress, put on your best dress"
Time permitting of course
Samantha -x-
I dress less because after three decades, it still makes me feel guilty... I'm such an idiot
You make an interesting point, and, of course, I guess anything is possible with the subconcious. I can only say tahat on a conscious level, over time, the dominant motivating factor has become happiness. The greater the day I'm having, the more I want to spend it pretty.
Wendy
Wendy, I feel u. Being happy is a beautiful feeling. Therefore it's not a surprise that someone would want to express that beauty in that way. I wish you many happy days!
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Now that you mention it, I just realized with the commeration of 9/11, it just activated the deep thoughts that drove me to ladies things & along the way a number of very attractive lady sightings. Many many thank you's for airing the thread.
It is more about time for me. When I had the time I dressed more and when things are stressful or hectic I tend to dress less. That said when my wife was dying she actually told me several times to "go put on a skirt." I think she believed it would help me cope. Her last Christmas present to me was to have my SIL go and buy me a new skirt. This after years of not wanting anything feminine under the tree because family would be over. After she died I did go overboard and dressed every chance I could, it really did not help with the emotions but it was more "me". Recently dressing is limited to the weekend because that is when I have more than just an hour.
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dressing more would require more time in the day..... its hard to not dress when you dont own any clothes that are considered not cross dressing...
for me, probably not. During periods of stress, I am generally focused on the problem at hand than getting dressed up.
Hi, Rebecca.
I tend to crossdress more often when I am under stress and feel like I need some relieve from the stressful events in life. I am very lucky that my wife understands me and allows me to wear some of her lingerie. She also allows me to order some of my own lingerie from Victoria's Secret or Fredericks of Hollywood. My wife's understanding has actually helped me to feel more comfortable about dressing up as a woman and has improved our intimacy. I like to joke around with her when we make love and I'm dressed in her lingerie by telling her, "I'm your sexy bitch"! LOL.
;-) I love to feel sooooo bad with her and she loves to spank me and call me her little bitch. I've even designed a beautiful, pink spaghetti strap tee which reads on the front, "Sexy Bitch" and on the back of it says, "Crossdressing is SOOOO much fun!" ;-)
Thank you, sister for listening.
- Josie.
Hi, Lorileah. First of all, I have to compliment you on how beautiful you look. I love your profile picture. ;-) Mavelous, darlin' . . . simply mavelous!!! ;-) I wish I could look as beautiful as you. When I was in college (and single), I would crossdress more often and actually go out in public a few times but as I mentioned in my previous post, I also tend to crossdress more when I am under stress (unlike you). I guess everyone is different in their crossdressing behaviors, but I think that for me, my crossdressing in stressful events helps me to cope with the stress and relax. I guess I find relieve in feeling girly. Now, that I am married and my wife and I have a one year old daughter, I tend to crossdress less but when I do, I crossdress in private with my wife and I am lucky to have her support me.
I'm sorry to hear about your wife passing away. I'm glad that she understood you as a crossdresser. It sure makes it a whole lot easier when the wives understand, right? I'm happy to know that you have an understanding SIL, and I definitely look forward to your friendship.
Take care, beautiful, Lorileah. Keep in touch.
- Josie.
Hi, Lorileah. Sorry, I'm still new to this but I tried to post a message for you and it posted at the top of the forum. I just think you look so beautiful. Please read my comment above as well.
- Josie.
I see many gorgeous pictures of a lot of you. WOW!!! So many of you look so believable as women . . . it's scary!!! ;-) I used to be like that and I had so many sexy outfits that made me look so believable when I would be fully dressed up in my short, sandy blonde wig; my makeup, heels and sexy top, skort and black tights. I remember, one time, when I was still in college I went outside all dressed up and some guys in a car that drove by me, whistled at me because he liked what he saw!!! ;-) It felt so good!!! I was dressing up more often back then. Now, with my wife and my one year old daughter, I dress up less but I am fortunate to have a wife that understands my crossdressing and allows me to do it behind closed doors but warns me that when our daughter gets older, I will have to avoid doing it in front of her.
One thing that I dream about doing (and would like to ask my wife for her permission to do it) would be to participate in a drag queen parade!!! I wish that some of those parades would offer some prizes to the sexiest dressed, etc. I would love to be with "my sisters" all dressed up sexy and lovin' every minute of it!!!
Yes. When im stressed i allways go into transvestite mode!
Hi Rebecca, I find that dressing helps me escape from reality.
Orchid
I certainly want to dress more when stressed.
Hi everyone,Dressing almost always relaxes me. When I feel sad or down, I'll change. It's not that the dressing itself makes the hurt go away from that particular instance or event. I do it because I know there's always that undercurrent of pain and sorrow that's always there when I look in the mirror and see....just another guy. Conforming my presentation closer to what I feel like on the inside cheers me up, makes me smile, and when you pile even more sadness onto that massive iceberg that's always there, even the smallest things can help.
Now some people may want to call this a form of escapism, which for some it is, but I remind these same people that anything can be used to escape reality and quite frankly I believe everybody needs to get away from it all from time to time. Reading, spring cleaning, exercise, long nature walks just to name a few and of course the obvious drugs and alcohol are all ways people cope with their issues. I don't agree with any coping mechanisms that can cause harm to your body (aka the last 2 items on my list) but everybody knows what helps them feel better and if it helps you then by all means go for it. It's perfectly okay to face your issues head on with a little help....actually I would recommend it.
This post from Java Junkie hits close to where I go when I am under great stress from lifes events. I do use my dressing as a form of escaping, instead of the use of drinking or the use of drugs to calm the pain. Reading, doing very labor intensive projects are my mainstays before dressing. During some of my most stressful periods, I had to travel thousands of miles in my car and on the drive home, I would stop at a mall and pickup a few items for Rebecca. Just the diversion of shopping for her made my trip a little less stressful.
My heart reaches out to everyone that has had to deal with events in our lives that have caused so much stress and pain, and how it was dealt with. I have read all of your stories and they all express your true inner feelings and that is very special to me and I hope to others on here.
Take care and Thanks for all of your replies so far.
Rebecca
[SIZE="2"]I’ve been fortunate in the fact that most tragic events in my life have all come during lulls in my CD’ing. I tend to crossdress when all is well, relatively speaking, so, when something is on my mind, I cannot fully “escape” into my closet of wonders and completely immerse myself in a femme presentation or mindset. That being said, I do tend to withdraw into my incorporated persona and distance myself from life’s problems – dressing is always very calming in this regard. Not being able to let the “girl” out would be a very tragic event, indeed…
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thank you for the compliments and the nice feelings. I read these threads and I realize I had a special person. But I have been lucky and there are many more special people in my life.
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